UPDATE: AITA for telling my best friend I can't afford her bachelorette trip?
Original post is on my profile. Thank you to everyone who commented. I read pretty much all of them, and I really appreciate that so many of you took the time. Sorry if this is long. The first couple of days after I posted I was a mess. Everyone in the comments said NTA and that helped, but it also made me think about how my message might have come across. I think I made it sound like I was dumping the whole thing on her at once. In my head I was being practical, but I can see how it felt like a no to her. On day five I called her instead of texting. She picked up on the second ring, which honestly surprised me. I told her I was sorry things got weird and that none of this was about not caring about her wedding. I said I was scared of going back into debt after working so hard to pay down my loans and that I'd rather be honest than say yes and then resent the whole weekend. She was quiet for a bit and then she started crying. She said she'd been stressed out of her mind with wedding planning, her mom's opinions and the venue deposit and that when I said no she took it as me pulling away from her. She also said she had no idea what the total came to for me with the dress, shoes and flights because she'd only been looking at the house split. She admitted the credit card comment was a dumb thing to say. I told her the I guess I know where I stand text really hurt and she apologized for that too. Where we landed, I am coming to Nashville for the Saturday only. I'll drive instead of flying, which cuts a lot off. Megan is going to ask the house owner if they'll adjust my share since I'm only there one night. I am also taking charge of the games and decorations like I originally offered and I'll be at the shower and the rehearsal dinner too. About the two bridesmaids who texted me, I did not reply for a day or two. When I finally did, I just said I was not going to argue about it and that Megan and I had talked. One of them said sorry. The other left me on read, which is fine. It is not magically perfect. It's still a little awkward and I think we both have some stuff to work through. But she's glad I told her the truth and I am glad too, even if it was a rough week. Thanks again for all the kind words. I'll update after the trip if anything dramatic happens.