u/breakmaback99

My husband 25M and I 23F have been together for 3 years and have a kid. I’m a stay at home mom so he provides for our family. I won’t reveal too much but he works in retail and is high enough in the company that he gets paid salary verses hourly. He manages a huge team and works overnights.

On Monday I went on his phone to set up something in his settings for him. While doing so, I accidentally clicked on screen time and noticed that he had used chrome. He only uses chrome for looking at adult content and uses safari other wise. I didn’t think too much about it as him “treating himself” isn’t a bother for me. But it was during the time he was supposed to be at work.

For reference, we’ve had issues in the past with him “treating himself” while I’m awake and making food. While I’m sleeping even though I had asked him for sex and he declined cause he was too tired. And the one that still kinda stings is when I caught him doing it while we were at the hospital the night our kid was born. We worked through it and he promised he’d do it reasonably and respectfully. We haven’t had any issues with it for a while.

I wasn’t sure how to feel about it and was wondering if maybe I was overreacting or reaching to conclusions so I waited to check his phone again today. I told him I needed to check that the setting i put in was still there and checked it again. Chrome was again used for 10 minutes during when he was supposed to be at work.

Also there is no reason for him to search stuff on his phone as he has access to computers literally everywhere at his job especially chrome.

My main concern is that someone might catch him and report it, leading to him getting fired and us having no income. But I’m also just wondering why? Like is it because he might get caught and it’s a turn on? How long has it been going on? I just have so many questions but sometimes talking to him about this stuff leads to arguments. Should I just overlook it? I feel super uncomfortable and weird about this, please help!