u/bridget1476

Please message me for the videos, I want a second perspective on them

I had a setup next to a reactive dog that completely stopped following commands when it saw another dog within about 15-20 ft.

The trainer had on a pinch or prong collar and was using quick snaps, kind of poorly communicated because they were in multiple directions, like she would yank upward, and then shortly took yank down to tell the dog down.

The yanking around was getting so bad that I was getting extremely uncomfortable and got two videos of their training session.

They seemed like a professional trainer.

I don't want to post the video publicly, because I could just be ignorant to their training methods.

DISCLAIMER I AM NOT A PROFESSIONAL DOG TRAINER.

I personally choose to use r+ with my own dog but respect that balanced training can be done well. I'm posting on this sub because I want my discomfort with this trainers methods challenged rather than affirmed.

It's been so hard figuring out if I'm low libido or grey ace.

For the first year my relationship, I did want to have sex because it was noval. The next year or two, I forced myself to because it's what my partner wanted and had a very unpleasant time with it. Then he was very straightforward and allowed me space to not feel like I had to say yes all the time and the frequency fell to less than once a month and I only felt like doing it when I was near the verge of blackout drunk.

The biggest problem I have with telling apart low libido and just being grey ace is I really don't feel distressed by not wanting sex. I would be very happy in a relationship with once a month or less.

It's also very hard to tell what is rarely feeling sexual attraction when what is normal? I feel aesthetic appriaciation a good amount but what is the normal level of feeling sexual attraction? The times I do feel sexual attraction is almost always when alcohol is involved.

I've worked at this place for a year.

My senior co worker says the most horrendous things about the dogs. Ex: fluffy deserves to be hit by a car, Bella and her mother need to be euthanized, I hope spot dies so I don't have to groom him again.

She also corrects dogs a lot during grooming. Like grabbing their beard, giving it a tug and saying knock it off.

She's made me rewash my own groom dogs because I used the "wrong" shampoo