u/brookekp86

Hi! I just had my baby shower and Im trying to think of something to get for the people who hosted.

I’ll be doing a hand written thank you card regardless but I want to something along with it, like a physical item.

It would be for my Grandma, aunt, sister and friend. I’m just going to use one of my baby shower gift cards to purchase the gifts, so money isn’t too much of a barrier for this and I would love to make it more personalized.

Thank you!! :)

Hi! So I recently tried to apply for CA state benefits and was denied completely. This included the medical program, which not only was denied, but I also verbally and checked off to reject applying for, since I have Tricare.

However, even after getting the denied medical status, I still got enrolled in Blue Cross Blue Shield of California.

I am not kidding when I say I have called every number associated with both CA health services and the Blue cross lines to try and get removed from the program, but they keep sending me in circles. BCBS telling me they can’t do anything and CA state giving me a different phone number to call every time.

I have NO clue how to get off of the BCBS plan and I know Tricare considers Medical as an exception, but I am still worried that this will cause problems for me. I am pregnant so doctor’s visits are frequent right now.

Should I report this to Tricare? Is there another way to get out of the CA program?? I’m genuinely confused on how I was signed up for it against my consent in the first place?

Please help lol

I (f25) am 20+6 as of today! Everything so far has been going fine with my pregnancy, I think? But I am worried about a few things.

A few months before I got pregnant, I moved across the country with my husband. When I was back home for my brother’s graduation, timing lined up for me to book my first appointment with my old OBGYN (who I loved seeing, they are super personal and take the time to actually talk to me about things and my care) for the last time. They informed me of my higher risk of preeclampsia and that I should get tested early for GD. I am over weight, I had lost a significant amount before getting pregnant, but I’m still at risk regardless.

When I returned back to my new state, I found a different doctor and haven’t really been extremely happy with them, but they also haven’t done anything wrong. They are rated well and the location is exactly where it needs to be. I just feel extremely dismissed and anytime I bring up my worries about any additional risks, they just make me feel like I am crazy.

Mentally, going from losing over a 100 pounds, to now watching my body change again has been really bad on my mental health, as much as I am trying to remember that this time it is happening for a beautiful purpose.

With all that in mind, I was REALLY looking forward to my anatomy scan (as any mom would be of course) for peace of mind. I get a call from my office the DAY before my appointment telling me they need to reschedule. I was like okay no worries, it happens.

Then they told me, their next appointment is October 2nd. A whole month away. At that point I will be a little over 25 weeks. I don’t know how true it is, but I was getting the idea online that doing the scan that late skews the results.

But again, I really needed the peace of mind. I explained that I didn’t mind the rescheduling, but October 2nd was very far away. I asked if they had any other locations, which they do, about 45 minutes from me. Which is fine!! I kept my Oct 2nd appointment just in case, but called the other location and explained.

They told me they had an appointment for Sept 11th, but they needed my referral. I had that sent over and checked with them about 2 days later, after not hearing anything even though they said they would call. Now they need my insurance referral. Okay.

So I’m here waiting, they told me they would call me Monday, both forgetting the holiday of course, so I am hoping to hear from them today. But they didn’t even take my number??? I hate to say this but the girl I talked to both times couldn’t even answer my question “will you guys give me a call or should I follow up with you?” And she goes “yes exactly” 😐

So I know I’m probably going to have to keep bothering them but it’s just so overwhelming and I feel like there should be some sort of urgency to reschedule a patient who booked nearly 2 months in advance and stay in the recommended time frame. I also don’t think that the 11th is available anymore based on the second time I talked to them.

When I followed up with my OB they asked me why they cancelled, I’m like idk??? Not to mention they gave me the wrong offices number to call from the start.

Sorry for the super long rant, I’m just really disappointed!!! :(

Hi!

So I am currently renting a 1bd apartment, in Chula Vista, my husband and I. Our water/sewage/trash are all looped in with our rent payment. Our gas/electric are separate.

I know CA is pricey, but when I looked at the cost breakdown, it seemed excessive?

Water: $100
Sewage: $40
Trash: $89

I believe we are paying for the previous month, so this would have been for July. Regardless, does this seem like a lot?? I don’t really feel as if we use THAT much water. And I can’t comprehend paying $89 for trash?

Please help lol

I recently and unexpectedly moved across the country, it was very last minute and I left my dog at home with my family.

I have raised her since a puppy, we always lived in apartments and about a year ago we moved back into my parents house. It was totally great for her. She bonded with our family dog, my family, has a whole house and a yard to run, she’s about 5 years old now.

My initial plan on moving was to get out here for a few months, and then bring her once things were settled. But now, my husband and I are expecting (I am about 4 months pregnant atp). We won’t be moving to a 2 bedroom apartment until next April, so space is very limited.

I know she loves my family, is happy, and treated well, but I can’t help but feel extremely guilty and like I’m abandoning her. I cry about it every single day. But I also feel like I would be selfish to drag her away from a life that she seems very comfortable in, regardless of my own feelings.

My parents don’t help either because they love to joke about me leaving her behind, but then tell me I can’t take her because they love her so much now.

I know in my heart I should let her stay there, but do you think it’s affected her? I think moving her across the country away from them is going to hurt her. Idk.

I’m looking for outside perspectives because I don’t know if my expectations are reasonable.
My husband works full time in the military, and I’m currently pregnant. Because of the pregnancy, I’ve been dealing with extreme fatigue and nausea so bad I can’t get out of bed, so some days I have a hard time keeping up with everything around the apartment.

I don’t expect him to do all of the housework, and I understand that he works hard. At the same time, I feel like it’s reasonable for him to help with some household chores. But I also feel selfish for expecting him to come home after a long day when I was here the whole time. Like throwing his trash away, putting his underwear in the hamper, take the garbage out when it’s full.

For those of you in similar situations, how do you divide household responsibilities? How can I approach this with him without it coming off as demeaning or unappreciative?
I feel like I’m starting to resent him because of it because I know these behaviors will continue after the baby is born and I want to work on that.

I’m genuinely looking for honest opinions and would appreciate constructive feedback.

Hi everyone! I am currently stuck awake and consumed with the same thoughts on repeat the last few weeks.

Over the past 2 years I have lost a significant amount of weight, I went from 330 to about 220.

In January I had a huge life change and ended up moving across the country with my husband and I had gained at least 15-20lbs back. That really didn’t bother me much because I knew I was going through a lot of life changes and things would settle again.

However, finding out I was pregnant has sent me into a spiral. I spend every day just looking at my body, noticing the weight gain and feeling more and more depressed. I feel like I can’t control my eating.

Even though I’m nauseous AF I still eat. And I’m exhausted ALL the time, so I know I’m not exercising enough.

I know I haven’t done anything directly to put my baby at risk, but I’m really mentally struggling and being extremely hard on myself. All I want is to enjoy the process and I know my body is bloating and going through so many changes. I don’t know how much of these feelings are from my hormones.

I barely want to leave the house because I’m so scared of people seeing me and judging me for my weight gain. The last time I was weighed I was 240 so I know I haven’t gained too much, at most 250. I just look in the mirror and am SO ashamed.

I just need support and nobody in my life can really understand this right now.

Hi everyone!

I (f24) am currently pregnant with my first child, a baby girl!! I am so beyond excited, but also terrified because I know at least one of my future children with get stuck with this :(

Formally, I’ve been kind of diagnosed. Pretty much every doctor I have seen has been baffled, all my blood tests come back perfectly normal, my hormones are in order and we can’t really figure out what the root cause of my hair loss is.

HOWEVER, both my mom and grandma have thinning hair (my grandma more noticeable than my mom because my mom’s is curly). And mine has been thinning since puberty, with all the typical distinctions of AA, slowly thinning down the middle part.

If the pattern continues, there’s a likely chance my daughter will end up with this too.

Growing up, my mom LOVED to point it out and make it a huge insecurity for me instead of helping me tackle it. Which makes me so upset because I feel like it’s something she should have taken the initiative for when I was 11-12y/o with thinning hair instead of making me hate myself.

I want to avoid this issue going forward but I don’t know what to do if I start seeing signs in my baby, especially if we could never find the root cause from my hormones. I know rosemary is good. And I don’t want to put her on minoxidil/spironolactone, especially before or during puberty.

Any help or advice is gratefully appreciated!!! I know this is a long time away issue but even if it means starting a simple and safe hair care routine young, that would make the biggest difference :)