r/PlusSizePregnancy

I’m so lost as to what to wear and where to shop. Every dress I like either isn’t in my size or is $200. My mom wants everyone to wear blue and my opinion is I want to be comfortable and cute without breaking the bank. HELP PLEASE.

hi all, I just had my blood drawn for my nipt test and I was reading over my chart and it said Natera suggested that if you’re over 220lbs, to wait until 16 weeks. I was 10&2. For reference I am 295lbs and 5’10. Should I be preparing myself to be disappointed when my results come in?

I’m approx 42C so around xxl for pull-on style bras. Any suggestions for a really soft comfy nursing bra to sleep in? I don’t care about having any support as it’ll just be for sleep/laying around at home. Hoping to find something without irritating seams, no back clasps.

I was recommended to gain as minimum weight as possible but I’m up a full 10 pounds and I’m only 20 weeks. I didn’t gain anything the first trimester but these past couple weeks especially the past week I’ve gained like a pound a day or every other day. However I have noticed my rings don’t fit anymore. So maybe it’s just ridiculous water retention?

I’ve been checking my BP and it’s my usual pregnancy normal 100/60 ish.
I walk about 6-8k steps a day and drink 40-80oz of water. I never changed my eating habits pre pregnancy to now. Afraid my OB is going to chew my out about it. I started with a 40+ BMI.

Anyone else experience rapid gain without trying?

Hi all, 39 weeks here with my first baby, getting induced in 3 days. Needless to say, I'm scared out of my mind. I am worried about the pain, how long it'll take, complications, THE PAIN...

Everything has been perfectly fine with this pregnancy, but I just worry now that I'm at the end of the line. I guess I'm just looking for encouraging words or positive induction stories. I can't imagine how I'm going to get through it.

For context I’m 5’8 with an anterior when I started ttc I was 236 but due to IVF and hormone injections I was 273 when I got pregnant I’m 22w6d today and I haven’t even felt the tiniest of flutters. Not feeling baby move is making me so so anxious because I had a miscarriage in January and had a vanishing twin this pregnancy. I was really hoping to have felt her by now 😭 From the beginning my OB said due to my placenta not to expect to feel anything until 18-20 weeks but I’ll be 23 tomorrow with nothing.

Looking for a jacket for postpartum baby wearing. Either a built for purpose one or something that just happens to work...

Im a US size ~20-22, with big hips so the H&M line is too small for me. Since im due in late November I figure I will need something Warm Warm, and also something fluffy, like a little more than a hoodie, for warmer days.

I'd really like to avoid Wal-Mart but will also get over myself of that is the only option. My other thinking was a carhartt from the Men's big and tall workwear store. I'll gladly pay more for something good, New York winters in a trash jacket are not my idea of fun!

Anyone find something they are happy with? / recommend?

I worked way too hard on the alliteration of that title. I see so many of my fellow plus size pregnant ladies struggling in this group with anxiety around prenatal care and being considered "high risk", and my heart breaks for you.

I want to share my experience + some additional perspective because I want people to know that it IS possible to have a positive experience with prenatal medical care and pregnancy. For transparency, I'm 8w3d, 32 years old 345lbs/155kg, 5'6"/167cm, BMI of 56 (tho BMI is bs anyway and I'll get to that). This is my 3rd pregnancy, but the first one that will be carried to term.

First off, facts do not exist in a vaccum:

- "Increased risk" does not mean "guaranteed". Nor does it always mean anything significant - "increased risk" can mean the difference between 0.1% chance to 0.4% chance. There's still a 99.6% chance that everything is fine. Don't let the language trip you.

- "being obese automatically means a c-section" - no it flipping doesn't. Your body not being strong enough to deliver naturally, or your baby being in danger means a c-section. Being obese does not mean being weak. If you put the work into your core strength, even once already pregnant, and prepare your body for the marathon of labour you CAN avoid a section. This goes for any body, not just plus size ones.

- BMI was invented by an astronomer and mathematician in 1832. Science didn't believe in GERMS until the 1880s.

- BMI was not intended to be used in medicine due to its significant fundamental limitations. (Source: Cureus. 2023 Nov 3;15(11):e48230). It was popularized by the diet industry to improve profitability, and medicine adopted it due to that influence. It's fully bull shit and reputable scientific process reflects that.

No human being is capable of true objectivity, no matter how hard science tries. Everyone still has unconscious bias, because everyone is a socialized individual. This includes medical staff AND the people that write the medical studies. Their attitudes and opinions will reflect those unconscious (and conscious) biases. Don't let their behaviour shake you. If a doctor doesn't have a good answer to a question other than "your weight", you're allowed to ask for the supporting documentation. Be critical of that documentation, and watch for the influence of bias within it. Cross reference with other reputable sources. Google Scholar is your friend. Just don't fall down the Facebook mom group conspiracy rabbit holes (for the love of God pasteurize your freaking milk).

For me personally:

This time around I've had 4 sets of labs/urinalysis, an ultrasound, and multiple doctors visits so far.

- I've never been weighed.

- I've never even had someone mention my weight.

- My medical file does not reflect a high risk pregnancy for any reason.

- My ultrasound tech was whole ass angry when I suggested skipping to the transvaginal because "it's not hard to ask you to lift your belly so we can get at the pubic bone" and "to heck with anyone too lazy to do their job"

- My doctor said that it doesn't actually make as big a difference as science used to think it did, when I asked about any proactive steps I should take because I'm bigger.

You CAN have a healthy pregnancy. You CAN have a "normal" pregnancy. You CAN deliver naturally. You CAN have a positive Prenatal care experience.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk 🤷‍♀️ love you all ❤️

Edit: I was today years old when I found out that FTM means "first time mom" in this context, not "female to male". 😂 My bad. I was just super excited for all the trans men having their own babies.

I am 30w4d and I have been putting off buying new clothes beyond a couple of tops. However, I'm reaching the point where I probably need to get new skirts and dresses. I only wear skirts and dresses, unless I am going to work out.

The problem is I don't know where to go, because nothing seems to have my size. I used to be a size 24/28 but I don't think I'm that anymore. Currently, at the waist, I'm 52 inches. I tried to measure around the widest part of my hips. The measuring tape only goes up to 60 inches, and the two ends were very much not touching. If I were to guess, I would say my hips at the widest part are at around 64 inches.

Can I get some advice on what to do? I hate clothes shopping online, but I don't think I have any other choice.

I’m truly feeling like crap, I know I’m overweight and every dr has made it known that it’s my fault that my pregnancy is high risk. I WANT to be better but I’m so exhausted, unmotivated and honestly borderline depressed most days.

The depression/anxiety is playing a massive part in my activity, I feel embarrassed to leave the house and be seen and judged therefore can’t bring myself to go for a walk and move my body, I even feel embarrassed using a walking pad in my own home in front of my husband, even though he’s never made comments on my body.

I’m not working currently and spend most of my time on the couch, I don’t have the energy to do anythingggg and my poor husband has had to pick up a lot of slack.

The main reasons for my pregnancy being high risk is obviously my weight (113kg), the fact that it’s an IVF pregnancy, the pregnancy began as a twin pregnancy but only one has a developed while the other stopped, the medication I’m on, and my diet/lifestyle.

How do we get activity and movement in when feeling nauseas and tired all the time, I do the dishes and need to rest, I genuinely applaud the women who work through their pregnancy, it makes me feel so useless though. I can’t do anything.

I’m trying to eat better, which is also a struggle as I can’t stand many foods right now, very plain and bland foods, lots of frozen food, pasta, rice.

I gag at vegetables but can manage fruit, I genuinely don’t know how to combat this problem as I know I need to eat better to be healthier but I just can’t.

I’m so so scared my baby will have complications because of me, I don’t think I could live with myself.

Anyway if you got this far thanks for listening to me sook, I don’t have anyone to share this with who will sympathise with me or care.

I’m looking at going to see one of my favorite bands next month and I’ll be 19 weeks.
I don’t remember being in much pain with my first until my 3rd trimester.
My biggest concern is I was in preterm labor with my first and delivered him 6 weeks early.
Starting in a few weeks I’ll be getting transvaginal ultrasounds to ensure my cervix isn’t shortening. I read even if I need a cerclage that I won’t be on bed rest. The concert is November 7th and I start these tests starting October 19. So the first appointment will jsut be baseline and then I’ll have one more official appointment for these tests before the concert that will show if it shortened at all. I’m just so scared that appointment will show and they’ll want to put the cerclage in that same week of the concert. Don’t know what to do. Guess I’ll ask my doctor.

Hey there. I am pregnant with my 3rd baby and in desperate need of some new underwear. Im a big skims fan but it’s not cheap at all. Lol
But I love the cheeky underwear, and the thinness/ not visible lines when I wear them.
Anyone have any recommendations?
I have an apron belly too. Any pregnant plus size underwear recommendations!??

Hey all, hope you don't mind me posting this here. I need insight but also to vent!

My 30 week scan showed low fluid and that my baby's abdomen was a lot smaller than her head (9th percentile vs 60th). 32 week follow up confirmed, with fluid even lower and stomach at 4th percentile and head at 60th).

Dopplers were fine but fluid dropped again at 33 weeks so I was scheduled for a csection at 34 after one last growth scan. Her stomach then moved to 9th percentile and her head to 85th with some improvement in fluid. Dopplers perfect each time.

I have spent the last 4 weeks upset because my baby girl was on track to be growth restricted, because I would never have my perfect bump and because I can barely feel her move because shes in incomplete breech.

No gestational diabetes, no pre eclampsia, I have gained about 20kg this pregnancy, and I always thought I would have a big baby because both my husband and I were big babies and are both above 250 pounds.

My csections been pushed to 37+4 and I just don't know if I can last that long with these mind games

So tl:dr: baby showed slowed growth for 4 weeks, every test fills me with horrible anxiety and I know its best for her to stay in I am just STRUGGLING. Anyone else experienced an odd growth pattern? Or have any advice on how to deal with the anxiety leading up to tests (already have a prescription but it makes my nausea worse).

Mostly just looking for words of wisdom, or encouragement here.

I'm only 11 weeks along, I went to a fertility clinic to become pregnant (PMOS/PCOS without ovulation), I have asthma and pre-diabetic before pregnancy, I just turned 33, height is 5'8" weight is currently 320lbs, was 300lbs beforehand.

I have basically been in bed rest for the last few weeks, with some movement during the day but I can only move so much before I am astonishingly bloated, exhausted, cramping in upper stomach, legs/pelvis feels sore, my feet hurt or swell, or I'm just nauseous or winded.

I am terrified that 1.) Its only going to get worse from here on out until after birth, and 2.) I am high-risk for GD and in general for pregnancy because of my BMI and pre-diabetes, and I am worried about how this may effect my life but also my baby's during pregnancy.

I have my first OB apt post fertility clinic in about 1.5 weeks, but until then I am just nervous. I am questioning if this will even be possible for me to have this baby without completely putting my health on the line.

I'm also in a weird mood lately because NONE of my clothes fit, I had to buy maternity leggings already, but even then I got the largest size I could find near me (XXL) and they are tight. Pre-pregnancy I usually wore an XL.

Also, my mother works in a NICU department and has completely distilled the fear in me of the liklihood about my baby going there, just since I am high-risk.

Did you experience anything similar? Was your health a concern? What helped you to keep going without beating yourself up mentally?

I went to a specialist yesterday. Context: at the beginning of my pregnancy I had one liver enzyme that was very slightly elevated so they sent me to a specialist. I got labs redone and yesterday was the followup. My liver enzyme is now solidly in the normal range. I have also somehow lost weight during this pregnancy. My OBs have no concerns about this and they definitely aren't encouraging me to lose weight during pregnancy.

Anyway, the first thing this liver doctor said to me at the follow up was 'ok, tell me how you are working on losing weight?'

It really rubbed me the wrong way like I'm not trying to lose weight, I'm trying to have a healthy body for me and my baby.