r/PlusSizePregnancy

TW: Loss

I recently found out I'm pregnant, about 5 weeks along. I was pregnant 2 years ago and miscarried at 6 weeks, directly after telling our parents that they would be first time grandparents. This time around I don't want them to get hurt if (God forbid) something goes wrong again, but I also feel weird hiding it from them. If there would be a miscarriage then they'd be blindsided by that too. The original plan was to wait until 12-14 weeks to tell them, but now I'm unsure. When did you tell close family? Did you tell them right away or did you wait until there was an ultrasound picture to show?

I’m 34 weeks pregnant and a FTM. I had a growth scan 2 weeks ago that had baby measuring a little larger, estimating him at 5lbs at 32 weeks. Today I had a checkup and the doctor measured my fundal height and said it’s measuring right on track 😵‍💫 this has me nervous because I’m plus sized, carry most of my weight in my stomach and thighs, and I’m nervous baby is bulking up in there and I won’t know exactly how much since I’ve seen fundal height measurements are typically extremely inaccurate for plus sized people 🫠

For reference, I’m 5’9 and started this pregnancy at about 253lbs and weighed in at 261lbs today.

I’m 23 weeks pregnant and still haven’t felt any definitive kicks. I’d say once a week I feel flutters but only once so I’m not sure if that’s baby or just my belly.

At 20 week anatomy scan doctor said everything looked good and to assume everything bc is good unless told otherwise, but I’m naturally a pessimist so my mind keeps going to worst case scenarios.

How do I not drive myself crazy while waiting for kicks? I don’t have another appointment for a week and then no ultrasound until 28 week growth scan.

FTM, anterior placenta, 260lb

14w pregnant and I still don’t feel pregnant I just feel sick and fat. It’s clear to me that I’m getting bigger because my pants and bras aren’t fitting as well, but as someone with PCOS it just feels like I’m gaining more weight again. I can’t see a bump like other women at 14w and it’s really depressing me. Am I just not going to have one? Am I simply just going to grow larger?

I’m also just in general feeling very discouraged with my weight and where it might be heading. I don’t weigh myself at home as an ED recovery tool but when I had my 12w ultrasound I was 30lbs heavier than I remember being. I obviously don’t know when that happened but now I’m super concerned about how much I’m going to gain during pregnancy and postpartum, as that’s the normal thing to happen. I’ve been nauseated and vomiting my entire first trimester and really struggling to eat but clearly I’m continuing to gain. Not only am I worried about this for myself but also for the health of my baby.

I’ve seen so many plus sized moms talking about not gaining any weight during their pregnancy or even trying to lose weight. That would be great as an option but even though I haven’t stopped doing my incredibly active job, I haven’t been able to pick up any more exercise due to absolute exhaustion or change my eating habits since I’m barely eating as is.

There is very little through line here I’m just worried about everything right now and I just want my baby to be ok and I want to experience the joys of pregnancy and not continue to get fatter.

I'm really not into the diapers so I'm thinking cheap black underwear + pads for postpartum. I saw old navy's cotton maternity option recommended but they arrived and the top seam is itchy. My preference is super high rise like at least belly button level. Any ideas for other places to look? Ideally less than $10 per pair.

I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant and i’m feeling less movement this week compared to last week. On top of being overweight I have an anterior placenta and baby is measuring on the smaller side at 24th percentile. The movement overall took longer to come, I wasn’t definitely feeling him until 19 weeks and since then it’s been inconsistent but last week it picked up and he was really moving and almost every night at the same time he’d kick. The past few days I have still felt him but it’s 3-4 kicks total for the whole day. My OB says fetal movement shouldn’t be consistent until 28 weeks but i just wanted input on if this sounded normal or anyone else had experienced this before.

Does any of you lovely mamas/mamas to be have experience with brands that do plus size nursing bras? I was specifically looking at those Hatch all-fabric crossover nursing bras but they don’t come in larger sizes. I know Knix has some options but not that style, has anyone tried that brand? Or any other options you liked? Thanks in advance.

I'm 20 weeks, I'm 38 and a first time mom. Tomorrow is my anatomy scan! I'm so excited for it but at the same time, I've gained 6lbs since my appt last month. I gained 5lbs between my appointment in June and July and my doctor didn't really bring it up. I brought it up but he said there's lots of reasons women's weight will fluctuate when pregnant and just to stay active and try my best with my diet. He's a great doctor but pretty old school in general so I just feel like when/if he brings up my weight gain he's going to be blunt about it.

I just feel like he's going to give me a hard time this month and I. Feeling anxious. I have been active, walking daily and doing Pilates 3-5 times a week but to be honest my diet has been pretty bad. I've been tracking my protein and fiber but not counting calories and I know I've had a lot of processed sweets. Like I'm not eating a pint of ice cream a day or anything but I am enjoying a dessert a day and more processed junk than I should. I think I'm just feeling badly because I spent a year and half prior to getting pregnant losing 80lbs and I've put weight back on quickly. I'm not really concerned about the aesthetics but I just don't want to be unhealthy or do anything that's hurting my baby.

I plan to get back on track and cut out most of the junk but I just have anxiety about seeing the doctor and guess I just wanted to vent.

I haven’t seen this discussed elsewhere so here it goes. My wife is just under 300 lbs and we had an IUI procedure (because lesbians) and are taking the regular tests. Before now we were doing ovulation kits but never ever showing positive. I read on this forum that those kits don’t always work for big girls so we accepted that and stopped. Now with all these negative pregnancy tests I am wondering if there is any connection here. The clinic says these are supposed to be as accurate as a blood test but I honestly don't trust them after everything they’ve put us through. your experiences are welcome!

I [30F] just found out I’m pregnant for the first time and I’m really struggling with what to do. I’m looking for other women who have been in this situation and how you personally decided whether you wanted to continue the pregnancy or have an abortion.

One of the biggest things complicating this for me is that I have extreme medical anxiety/phobias. I avoid doctors, hospitals, medical procedures, etc. pretty much at all costs. Even the thought of having to go to regular prenatal appointments, get blood drawn, have ultrasounds, give birth, etc. is honestly terrifying to me. I know myself well enough to worry that if I continued the pregnancy, I might end up avoiding or skipping prenatal care altogether because of how anxious I get.

But at the same time, part of me really does want the baby. And that’s what makes this so hard. There’s a part of me that already feels attached and wants to see where this life goes, but then I think about everything pregnancy involves medically and I get completely overwhelmed and scared.

My partner [31M] of 13 years is also making this harder. He says that he supports whatever I decide because it’s my body, but he’s also making it pretty clear that he thinks abortion is the right choice. He’s been bringing up statistics about maternal mortality and the risks of pregnancy, and honestly it’s making my anxiety worse. I understand that pregnancy has risks and I’m not trying to pretend it doesn’t, but hearing statistics about dying during pregnancy when I already have a huge fear of medical situations is not exactly making me feel better, and he’s doing it to scare me on purpose into making the decision he wants. I’m also afraid I might not be cut out for parenthood; I have zero shining examples in my life and have been no-contact with my mother for 12.5 years.

I’m also somehow oddly embarrassed by me personally being pregnant. Saying baby, child, or referring to myself as a mother, is making me feel so awkward, unnatural and uncomfortable. An additional layer to this is that I have PCOS, and I’m afraid if I terminate this pregnancy and I come to regret it I will never have another opportunity. We weren’t trying to get pregnant but weren’t trying to avoid it either. After 13 years without the use of any birth control and highly irregular or absent cycles, I honestly thought it would never be possible for me without medical intervention which I’m not willing to pursue.

I know ultimately the decision is mine, and I’m going back and forth with the decision. I’m not really looking for people to tell me whether I should have an abortion or keep the pregnancy. I want to hear from women who were really unsure and maybe have similar fears and phobias.

How did you come to make your decision? I hope this makes sense.

My OB told me that she wants to schedule an induction due to me being so close to my due date.

What should I expect to happen with the induction?? Also what food should I plan to eat prior to?

Im getting a lottt of nerves about this but I know the end goal is what's going to make this all worth it.

I keep reading on here about all of the pregnancies where you guys gained no weight… what about the ones where you gained too much weight? 😩 I’m 11 weeks and I’ve already gained 20 lbs, because eating is the. Only. Thing. That keeps the nausea at bay. I lost 50 lbs before getting pregnant by taking a GLP1, and I’m sure that the increased appetite from being off it isn’t helping either. I have kept weightlifting and have had strength gains but it’s probably 3-5 lbs of muscle and the rest of fat. I’m eating healthy food, but way too much of it. The nausea is slowly going away and I can eat less, so I’m hopeful I can make it through the pregnancy without gaining much more weight. Has anyone had this experience? I feel so guilty and ashamed about it and am scared of going to my next OB appointment this week.

Does anyone have recommendations for comfortable maternity/postpartum pajamas? I just hit 30 weeks and now I’m not comfortable in anything that I bought a size up. I know the hormones don’t help, but I’m constantly crying about how uncomfortable I feel lol. I feel like anywhere I look it’s either crap quality or $100 or doesn’t come in plus size period. I’m very hormonal, emotional and frustrated so I’m very excited to get stuff that fits haha

i’m not really sure what i’m looking for with this post other than maybe some reassurance that i’m not the only person who feels like this.

over the last year or so i really let myself go and ended up gaining nearly 100lbs, which has put me into the class 3 obesity range. i’d actually planned to spend this summer trying to lose some of the weight and feel a bit more like myself again, but then i found out i’m pregnant.

i’m so, so excited about my baby and i already want them more than anything, but i’m finding it really hard to separate that excitement from how insecure i feel about my weight. i keep worrying that something is going to go wrong with the pregnancy or with my baby because of my size, and i’m also really scared of being judged by midwives/doctors or other people for getting pregnant at my weight.

we haven’t really told anyone yet, and weirdly i’m even nervous about telling people because there’s this horrible little voice in my head telling me that people will think i “shouldn’t” be pregnant at my size, or that i should have lost weight first. i know logically that being plus size doesn’t mean i don’t deserve to have a baby, but i’m struggling to actually feel that way.

i think part of it is also grieving the pregnancy i imagined having, where i’d feel confident and excited about my bump, rather than worrying about whether i’ll even look pregnant or just bigger.

this is mostly just a bit of a rant, but i’d really love to hear from anyone who is/was pregnant at a similar size. did you have these feelings too? and did they get any easier as your pregnancy progressed?

Is this post Bragging… yes but it’s mostly appreciation!

I’ve always hated my boobs, I always thought they were too big, saggy and heavy, they have no shape and my areolas are huge and ugly.
However today I finally managed to collect in total over 200mls of colostrum! It’s made me think/realise that my “horrible” boobs are in fact incredible they will feed and nourish my baby when she arrives, she’s not even here yet and they are already providing so much. Are they the prettiest boobs … no but they are amazing and I’m proud of them.

I’ve decided to show my appreciation and new found love to name them, my right is called Valerie and my left is Cleo both mean warrior/strong because that’s what they are.
I know this is a really random post and a lot of you won’t care but I needed to share my thoughts and excitement!

Hi Everyone,

I'm hoping its okay to ask this in here! I'm a teacher and I'm going to be back at work during my third trimester for at least 2 months. So I'm looking to invest in some proper shoes to keep the swelling to as much of a minimum as possible haha. I unfortunately have been blessed with big feet before pregnancy so it'll need to be a shoe that is size 11.

Luckily my school isn't strict on no runners or anything, so if there are good running shoes out there let me know!!

TIA!

My husband and I just started trying for a baby and my doctor has already told me I should try and lose 10% of my body weight to increase our chances of conceiving naturally. My body image/weight is already a trigger for me because I have had PCOS since I was a young teen, so I’m just wondering if my entire pregnancy journey is going to be punctuated by doctors telling me I’m too fat. Has anyone had any success with asking doctors to refrain from mentioning your weight and letting them know you are aware you need to lose weight?

Has anyone lost weight /maintained weight while pregnant and care to share what they did? I’m just getting in my head about all of it.

Edit: thank you SO much for being so open about your experiences. This has helped my anxiety a lot. I am 5’11 and 240lbs so I feel better about my chances of conceiving, how doctors will treat me, etc.

Week 30. What’s up with all the sweating???? Is it because i’m fat or just pregnancy symptom?

This is my second pregnancy and my first OB never gave me clarification on how to use the unisom and b6 combo so I only did it at night and sometimes during the day but wasn’t consistent.

My new OB told me to do it at night too, but when I google the standard is to take multiple doses of b6 during the day and unisom at night.

So I’m taking 25mg b6 in morning, midday, and at night. Also taking my prenatal now at night. I checked and it only has like barely 2mg of b6 in it so I know I’m well within limit of 200mg daily.

But holy cow taking the b6 during the day has taken my nausea from an 8 to a 5/6. I’m like so shocked this is helping as well as it is and wish I had known sooner!