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Week 30. What’s up with all the sweating???? Is it because i’m fat or just pregnancy symptom?

hii! having my baby shower in sept 5th. I’ll be 33w. I’m looking for plus size friendly recs for what to wear🤍

i was 118kg pre pregnancy, 127kg at 29 weeks. 1.63cm. Most of my weight I’ll say it’s in my hips

I passed. I don’t have diabetes. and I’m SOBBING.

I spent so much time without even TTC because all doctors told me how I was gonna get all the complications of pregnancy due to my weight.

Gestional diabetes among them.

I was soooo ready for it to be positive because that’s what you have to expect when you are fat, right? Almost what you deserve because you decided to be fat.

Now I can’t stop crying because it turns out i’m out of complications.

Actually I started crying last week when Alex Cooper said she had it because I was like ok what can i expect, or if she has it looking like that it’s not really about weight.

But now knowing that I’m out of the diabetes woods i’m just 😭😭😭i can’t stop crying let’s blame the hormones

(do have an awful lower back pain tho😂)

Why is it that everyone neeeds to tell me the zodiac sign of my baby when they ask the due date.

are they asking the due date only so they can assign a zodiac sign to him???

It seems they are not able to ask the due date without talking about how Libra is his zodiac sign and that means my baby it’s gonna be whatever personality traits they think goes with it?????

It’s a dumb thing to be annoyed at. But god damn am i annoyed at that.

i might overthink this one because i feel everything it’s gonna be small for me. Where i live we don’t have a ton of options (and all the ones ive seen are too small), so I can’t go to test them.

My best option to get one is to buy in the US and ship to my country. But which one??? There are so many

I’ll just start saying that I loved my OB because he was very calming around me being oversized. I spent 5 years wanting to get pregnant, but my previous gyn basically said I would get every complication in the world due to me being overweight.

Then I met this guy who was wonderful with weight and let me know I won’t be the first and only overweight pregnant person and did a great job explaining how we could tackle any potential issues that a regular-weight person can also get. However his specialty is fertility, not labor/birth.

also, for context, in the country where I live apparently is a thing where EVERY DOCTOR advocates and does a c-section first. From all of my pregnant friends, I only have 1 friend who did natural birth and it was for religious reasons.

In my last appointment, I was with my regular OB and he made a comment along the lines of “do you think she can handle labor?”. Which, at the moment, I took as hell no I know I can’t.

But after leaving the more I thought about it I kept thinking: Why I can’t? Then I realized that if I wanted to advocate for myself, I couldn’t put myself into such a vulnerable spot with someone who would made me feel like I can’t handle it. And then what happens if something goes wrong and I end up needing a c-section? Would they make me feel like it’s my fault because they told me so?

So anyway, I decided to change OBs to one that is
more open to labor.

Any advice, recommendations, things I should talk about when having my first appointment with this new guy? Also wanted to ask what type of tests/check ins have you had, just to make sure I’m not missing anything?

edit: i’ve also thought: I’ve had such an easy and boring pregnancy, that my body must know what to do during labor and prepare for it even if my brain doesn’t, right?

I’ll just start saying that I loved my OB because he was very calming around me being oversized. I spent 5 years wanting to get pregnant, but my previous gyn basically said I would get every complication in the world due to me being overweight.

Then I met this guy who was wonderful with weight and let me know I won’t be the first and only overweight pregnant person and did a great job explaining how we could tackle any potential issues that a regular-weight person can also get. However his specialty is fertility, not labor/birth.

also, for context, in the country where I live apparently is a thing where EVERY DOCTOR advocates and does a c-section first. From all of my pregnant friends, I only have 1 friend who did natural birth and it was for religious reasons.

In my last appointment, I was with my regular OB and he made a comment along the lines of “do you think she can handle labor?”. Which, at the moment, I took as hell no I know I can’t.

But after leaving the more I thought about it I kept thinking: Why I can’t? Then I realized that if I wanted to advocate for myself, I couldn’t put myself into such a vulnerable spot with someone who would made me feel like I can’t handle it. And then what happens if something goes wrong and I end up needing a c-section? Would they make me feel like it’s my fault because they told me so?

So anyway, I decided to change OBs to one that is
more open to labor.

Any advice, recommendations, things I should talk about when having my first appointment with this new guy? Also wanted to ask what type of tests/check ins have you had, just to make sure I’m not missing anything?

edit: i’ve also thought: I’ve had such an easy and boring pregnancy, that my body must know what to do during labor and prepare for it even if my brain doesn’t, right?

Why? The baby sleeps with you for the first 6 months at least, right? I feel everyone is pressuring me to get the perfect nursery done with the wallpaper, wall decor and all the things. But why? Do you really need it?

I just want to tell someone about this.

My ex died in Sept 2024. We were never really out of each other’s lives. I dreamt with him a couple of times after he died. I know those times were about him communicating feelings and saying goodbye.

Fast forward to yesterday, July 2026. I had the weirdest dream. It wasn’t necessarily with him but I felt him there as if he were talking to me?

First, in my living room there was a woman whom I’ve never seen before, and she says to me “there’s someone behind you”. I knew that I was alone in my house, so I got scared and ran through the door to a park nearby. There was a lot of people, and I had a notebook with me.

Then his mom starts talking. She says a bunch of things, not to me necessarily but to all the people who was there (I didn’t see their faces). I remember 3 things she said:

How they used to do a yearly family trip to the beach and then stopped when he died, but they were going to do it this year again.

Something about cats. And how my ex had a saying that everything can be solved with a black cat.

Then she was asking us to read to his son, because if we read to him he could still feel connected.

Throughout this whole thing I was taking notes, and when she said that last part I made a note of reading Narnia books, and their spot in my house became really clear in my mind. I actually started reading them because the ones I have he gifted them to me.

Then she left, and I start crying. And I kind of feel him talking to me? But I don’t remember that so much.

Weird dream. Can I talk about it with someone? Can’t really talk about this with anyone from real life.

I just want to tell someone about this.

My ex died in Sept 2024. We were never really out of each other’s lives. I dreamt with him a couple of times after he died. I know those times were about him communicating feelings and saying goodbye.

Fast forward to yesterday, July 2026. I had the weirdest dream. It wasn’t necessarily with him but I felt him there as if he were talking to me?

First, in my living room there was a woman whom I’ve never seen before, and she says to me “there’s someone behind you”. I knew that I was alone in my house, so I got scared and ran through the door to a park nearby. There was a lot of people, and I had a notebook with me.

Then his mom starts talking. She says a bunch of things, not to me necessarily but to all the people who was there (I didn’t see their faces). I remember 3 things she said:

How they used to do a yearly family trip to the beach and then stopped when he died, but they were going to do it this year again.

Something about cats. And how my ex had a saying that everything can be solved with a black cat.

Then she was asking us to read to his son, because if we read to him he could still feel connected.

Throughout this whole thing I was taking notes, and when she said that last part I made a note of reading Narnia books, and their spot in my house became really clear in my mind. I actually started reading them because the ones I have he gifted them to me.

Then she left, and I start crying. And I kind of feel him talking to me? But I don’t remember that so much.

Weird dream. Can I talk about it with someone? Can’t really talk about this with anyone from real life.

I just want to tell someone about this.

My ex died in Sept 2024. We were never really out of each other’s lives. I dreamt with him a couple of times after he died. I know those times were about him communicating feelings and saying goodbye.

Fast forward to yesterday, July 2026. I had the weirdest dream. It wasn’t necessarily with him but I felt him there as if he were talking to me?

First, in my living room there was a woman whom I’ve never seen before, and she says to me “there’s someone behind you”. I knew that I was alone in my house, so I got scared and ran through the door to a park nearby. There was a lot of people, and I had a notebook with me.

Then his mom starts talking. She says a bunch of things, not to me necessarily but to all the people who was there (I didn’t see their faces). I remember 3 things she said:

How they used to do a yearly family trip to the beach and then stopped when he died, but they were going to do it this year again.

Something about cats. And how my ex had a saying that everything can be solved with a black cat.

Then she was asking us to read to his son, because if we read to him he could still feel connected.

Throughout this whole thing I was taking notes, and when she said that last part I made a note of reading Narnia books, and their spot in my house became really clear in my mind. I actually started reading them because the ones I have he gifted them to me.

Then she left, and I start crying. And I kind of feel him talking to me? But I don’t remember that so much.

Weird dream. Can I talk about it with someone? Can’t really talk about this with anyone from real life.

It’s been so long since I did over-employment that I’m a bit rusty.

So I work in a very very niche thing on marketing. It’s very niche. I work at an agency and my boss he’s the best, way too chill and relaxed for his own good.

Last year we had a conversation that he didn’t care if I had another job just not on the same field because there was too much overlap to use agency resources. (which honestly is his ego talking because no i’m not using agency resources)

The bad thing about him is that he pays the bare minimum.

Also for context I work as a remote contractor resident outside of the US, so no employment benefits. It’s doing influencer marketing for tech/saas brands.

Anyway, I got a job offer at a company doing the same thing I do at the agency. This is something akin to part time and they pay double than the agency does. It’s a no brainer to take it.

I would love to keep both jobs, but I’m really scared that my boss at the agency finds out from someone else because it’s a very niched industry and he knows everyone. Specially because he mentioned that I couldn’t do this outside of the agency (even tho i’m a contractor he can’t technically demand that)

I’m afraid of someone telling him like hey is this the same Vanessa that works at your agency and then him finding out that way, would it be awkward. But I’m scared of telling him and risking loosing my job (company 2 doesn’t have the best track record of reliability, however they are being very accommodating with me as i’m 7 months pregnant and are paying me double what agency pays me for a part time gig)

What should I do?

Our two options:

Angelo Rafael
Alessandro Antonio

For context: Spanish speaking country. Last name is a short one that starts with N and very spanish sounding. However we’d love to use a name that’s pronounceable in english too.

hi! i’ll start by saying i feel fine. i’m not uncomfortable or sick or in pain or anything like that. I’m 26 weeks today.

My freak outs started because last appointment my BP was at 140 (which tbh is ALWAYS high during every appointment).

I think it was week 16 when they told me to go to the cardiologistic and they did, said it was okay. I track it at home and it was okay too.

Since that last appointment they asked me to track every day and it’s higher. Not 140 higher but between 120/130 range which is higher than what I had before when tracking at home.

Separately I weighted myself for the first time since Week 18, and I’ve gained total 17 pounds during pregnancy. I was 260 pre pregnancy and I’m at 277.7 today. Which I’m freaking out about and thinking that might be the reason why I’m having high BP.

Also the glucose test is looming over my head stressing me out. I’ll get it done next week.

My OB hasn’t weighted me since week 8 to get a starting weight. The only thing he said was that I should go to a nutritionist because now it’s when I’m going to start gaining weight fast as I go into the 3rd trimester. He hasn’t looked, asked, and was very clear that my weight doesn’t affect him and he’s not concerned about it.

So now I’m freaking out a bit can someone talk to me?😭

(idk if this might be controversial and if I change my mind later in pregnancy or post partum I will come back and retract my statement)

But i’m so happy i didn’t decide to lose a ton of weight before pregnancy. I’m 5’4 and 260 lbs pre pregnancy.

Now I’m week 24 and I have no clue how much I weight now.

I know I’ve gained weight. I’ve also seen my other pregnant friends or just women online struggling for not having the same energy levels, being bloated, gaining weight, having more fat on their face or arms or stretchmarks or whatever

and I’m just so happy that hasn’t been an issue for me.

I don’t care I’m gaining weight because I was already fat. I don’t care if I don’t have energy to do that cute workout because I 100% wasn’t doing it before. I don’t care if my belly is bloated because it probably was before. I know I’ll get stretchmarks because I got them when I first gained weight, I still have them, and I know they won’t be the death of me.

I’ve just have such an appreciation of my body now, what it can do, and with the extra weight and everything is able to give me the most boring pregnancy ever and grow my baby boy, stay healthy, big and enough for both of us without challenging my mental health.

anyway just wanted to drop a body appreciation post

because I thought I was getting pregnant despite how overweight I was.

Before being pregnant it never crossed my mind that I would be pregnant and healthy THANKS to how my body is built🤍

and this is healing years and years of body and weight trauma

Hi! What do you put there????? Do you put down clothing and burp clothes? or do you put the biggest/most expensive items?🥲

or do you put the cheap ones and buy the biggest ones yourself?

Also how do you send it to your friends and family? what do you say???? I’m struggling with the idea of I decided to bring this human being to earth buy me gifts so I can take care of him?😂😂

Hi! Any recs for this on amazon? Was looking at this one, it’s so cute, but not sure if it’d be helpful when actually nursing

https://a.co/d/04PYpZsF

My baby Yorkie (5yo) just found out i’m pregnant (22w) and it’s the cutest thing!😂

When I just got pregnant she didn’t want anything to do with me. We always slept together (think her on my neck, in the middle of my legs, or in my armpit as I hugged her) but when I was recently pregnant she didn’t even want to sleep in the same room as me.

A week ago or so (coincidentally the same week I started to feel the baby) she’s been the clingiest she’s ever been!!! Always wants to hug me, to be against my torso or under my arms.

If i’m watching a tv show on my laptop or scrolling in my phone she’ll cry until I make space for her to curl in whatever corner against me she can find.

It’s the cutest thing. Is it the pregnancy? can you talk bout similar experiences?

Season 9. Suddenly Rachel is laughing at the word Homo? She’s been so great why do you have to change her to fit that storyline

I just find this storyline mega annoying because I don’t get why he’s so insistent on it