u/burglannoying

I'm exhausted

• He won't eat his food unless I'm in the room with him
• I can't walk him because he's leash reactive to humans and dogs
• He doesn't play with my dog, in fact herds my dog, who is clearly uncomfortable with him
• He started guarding me against my partner and resident dog. Rescue directed me to crate him most of the day so he can't have the privilege of guarding me
• He's fine overnighting in the crate, but if crated during the day and I'm around, he'll whine, shake, and try to break out
• Since I stepped up crating, he's started having accidents inside, even though he gets to go into the yard every 3-4 hours
• He's started running away from me when he thinks I'm going to crate him
• He doesn't know how to fetch. The only way I can play with him is using a flirt pole so that I can get the toy back, and start pulling on his leash to force him to let go. Even then, he won't let go and will literally be hanging in the air holding on to the toy.
• I'm supposed to have him play with other people to build rapport, but he won't play with anyone else unless I'm there with him
• I can't take him to adoption events because he ignores or reacts to other people and dogs

It's like every day a new behavior gets unlocked that makes him less and less adoptable. He now needs a home with a fenced yard, single owner, no other pets, no frequent visitors, willingness to do intensive training for reactivity/guarding/obedience... y'all can imagine how likely that is

Rescue is trying but they have other priorities and dogs in worse situations.

I feel awful and ashamed to be giving up on him, but I'm in way over my head and can't see a way out

EDIT: thanks for the advice, but I used the Vent flair because I really just needed to vent! I am satisfied with how the rescue is supporting me. It's just a shitty situation and I'm trying desperately not to feel bad about myself for failing this dog.