u/butteredtoast_ok

hi, does anyone know which churches in the centre are open all day to the public? (other than st michael’s) are any college churches open for us normies?

yeah dumb title i KNOW
i’m having zero luck on dating apps - the few matches i get, either they never start a chat, they never continue a chat when i message, or we chat for a bit and no one asks anyone on a date and it goes nowhere and fizzles out.
i live in a small town with zero lgbt events (for people my age, i’m 25 and not a student)
the city i work in also doesn’t have a ton of lgbt events (there are some, but i can’t go to most of them due to work) and a lot of things are student focussed but there is an lgbt pub!
is it weird if i sit in there reading/with a drink/smth on my own and hope i get approached? idk how to approach people especially if they’re in a group lmao

anyone who’s met a partner irl and not a mutual friend - how did you do it?

looking for advice or reassurance or even someone to tell me i’m being an idiot and get over it?
(you may have seen my previous post a few days ago)
is it normal to feel this awful and sad and heartbroken over a 6 week thing? we started chatting on tinder and immediately it felt different, we went on 3 dates, texting constantly but healthy boundaries bc we’re both grown with full time jobs and we’re busy! then she ended it bc she didn’t feel a romantic connection, she’s not ready to get back into dating (it’s been 3 years but each to their own i get it), and she’s completely burnt out from her job and other life things.
but the things she was saying to me! “i am mesmerised by you” dude come on “i can’t stop thinking about you” it was getting pretty nsfw over text and then this all felt completely out of the blue and it’s over?
was it slightly love bombing? idk if that’s overused. but our chats were so lovely and nice and it felt like a good friendship the way it was easy to talk to her.
i offered to stay friends and she said the kindest thing to do would be to go our separate ways for the foreseeable. i have been so so sad over this and all i want is to message her and tell her i want to stick with it and we can take it slowly and work together to balance everything. idk what to do, she really felt like the right person.

hi, are there any community events where i can meet other lesbians (ideally, open to meeting other lgbt+ folk too!) in oxford (or banbury)? preferably not students and like ages 23-30 ish (im 25)
i’m not into board games, i love theatre and wandering around museums and art galleries and bookshops. i like women’s football and going to the pub with friends. i’m not super outgoing (anxious!) but i’m trying to put myself out there and make new friends and have a sense of community.