u/caccia_tore

Fellas we gotta be realistic here. Unless you're starting from an already masc-leaning face or build, you are probably not magically going to pass within your first 1-6 months on T.

And yes, I know everyone is unique and changes will happen at different rates. I say this with love as someone who is 5 years on T/almost 4 years post top surg. I didn't really start consistently passing until about a year and a half ago (for me I think it was my medium to long hair that I had a hard time letting go of. I was also EXTREMELY femme before transition which gave me very they them vibes for a long time.)

Think about cis boys going through puberty-- most of them don't sprout a full beard overnight. A lot of boys I went to middle school with still had baby faces through high school graduation. I'm almost 30 and have seen some of my old classmates who still have patchy facial hair/baby faces.

As frustrating as it is to hear "just wait" that's unfortunately the reality for a lot of us. I see a lot of posts in transmasc subs where guys will be like 2.5 weeks on gel or a month of injections absolutely crashing out bc they "don't have any changes yet am I cooked??"

If you're newly on T and have already changed what you have control over (hair, clothes, gym routine), my genuine best advice is to let the T do its job.

I've had a lot of terrible jobs in the 10+ years I've been working so I'm not new to workplace politics and other BS. I've been at my current job for 2 and a half years and it was kinda messy at first but i liked my boss and had a few coworkers in my home department that made it bearable, and the job itself was much better compared to other types of work I've done.

My first boss left about 3 months after I started and it's been really downhill from there. Been losing all the good/competent coworkers slowly over the past 2 years I've been here and the people that replace them are so incredibly stupid and performative that it's really driving me nuts. Most of my current superiors cannot form a coherent thought or email without consulting chatgpt and they have no idea what's going on or they do and are fine with gaslighting the rest of us. They switch up every single day between "you guys are doing amazing/best team I've ever had/this team does not need micromanaging" (last one is verbatim, Lol) and "we need to do better, we're falling behind/we're creating more work for ourselves"/ continuing to micromanage, meanwhile it's NOT a secret who is actually doing work and who isn't. it's a small workplace but some people are really good at performing productivity so it tends to fly under the radar. Bug Even the people with authority that realize how it is just don't care.

I work in education so most of us are severely underpaid for jobs that we genuinely are (or were) passionate about. I am extremely grateful to even have a job right now. My longest stretch of unemployment was 1.5 years and it was really awful, so I definitely feel silly complaining but at the same time this job is really eating away at my soul in a way that other jobs never have.

Ive been applying and not getting any bites on my applications elsewhere (I've had a handful of interviews get to the 2nd/3rd round and not work out for a variety of reason) and trying to build up my professional development (on my own because my boss cannot be bothered to have genuine conversations with us about growth)

This just feels like a sick joke and I needed to vent somewhere besides my friends and partner because I know they're sick of hearing me go on about it