u/cascine

So I (early 30s woman) never struggled with finding someone to be in a relationship with. Same thing with a finding a job. I also feel like I transform the life of all my exes (ie encourage them to switch to a college major that now makes them much more money, get them to AA, repair parental bonds, etc) in the duration of the relationship. After I ended each relationship (I was the one who walked out of all my relationships & 1 engagement), many of my exes reach out and thank me for bringing joy and changing their life in a good way.

I also am changed to but I feel like a lesser extent (less positive and more negative) compared to how I affected them. It has led to some resentment that I’m the one to carry the negative weight and burden while they get the benefit of sucking my energy dry- reason why I leave the relationships (except for with my ex fiancé- an Aries Sun, Leo moon, cancer rising with an Aries Venus as well- he was the only one where I felt impacted and influenced me positively & equally as I did to him).

Wondering why that is?

Hello all, hoping to cast a net here & try my luck:

I’m a woman in my 30s based in Burnaby, and I’m hoping to connect with people (F, ideally 30+) in the Vancouver / Burnaby / Coquitlam area who are genuinely into self-work, healing, meditation, spirituality, Buddhism, and the more esoteric side of personal growth.

A close friend of mine who shared the interests recently moved away, and I really miss having someone to do things like: sound baths; meditation sessions; sauna & cold plunges; catching up and encouraging each others growth.

A bit about me: Outside of the aforementioned, I work a boring but stable 9-5 hybrid job. I enjoy art, going to concerts, enjoying the little things in life, roller skating, finding new hobbies to expand my experience of the world, trying new things and food and going to new hidden places. My life is far from perfect but I’ve worked hard find the balance to be happy with what I have with being motivated enough to do more and growing without staying stagnant.

My current partner and friend circle here aren’t really into this space I’m looking for, so it would mean a lot to find people who get it and are actively walking their own path of growth.

I’d love to build a small, intentional WhatsApp group where we can connect, share, and meet up regularly. Ideally once a week or every other week depending on schedules. The goal is to create something consistent and meaningful with an emphasis on showing up in person and building genuine connection, rather than staying in a screen-only dynamic.

A few things I’m looking for:
– You’re 30+ woman
– You’re genuinely interested in growth and self-awareness (therapy-going & doing inner work)
– You value reciprocity and effort
– You’re local-ish (Vancouver, Burnaby, Coquitlam preferred)
– You’re open, kind, and grounded

To help keep this intentional, if you reach out, please share:
– A little about yourself
– Your favourite spiritual or self-development book (or one that really impacted you)

If this resonates, I’d love to hear from you 🙏

Edit post: due to an overwhelming amount of replies and messages (mostly from men too) that I’m trying to go through, I will now only accept replies from Women to try to create a balanced ratio.

Despite not having trouble finding partners to be in relationships with, why do relationships feel transformational or painful for me?