how tf do i get laid
Ok I'm gonna preface this by saying I'm talking about cis guys. Trans guys are never out of the question for me but this post will be about cis men.
I've been lurking and talking to people on various apps (mainly grindr) but not only is everything on pretty much all of these apps LOCKED BEHIND A FUCKING PAYWALL!!!!! but the dudes on there are never attracted to me.
Maybe it's the area I live in but I've tried to find people further away.
The issue is that
nobody seems to be attracted to me. For context, I am pre surgery but 3 years on testosterone. So basically i'm hairy as shit (including face,) chubby, but I have got some knockers alright!
I've tried to look for bi dudes but even then, they usually ask for nsfw pics first, and then after I send my face I get fucking blocked.
Im assuming they expect me to be feminine and shit bc I have boobs and then they see that my face is far from and get uninterested. Which I guess I understand? But it's just painful to feel so unattractive.
My question is basically where the hell do I find cis guys who are actually fucking attracted to me? While simultaneously making sure I'm not being fetishized??? I am genuinely losing my mind I need dick. I am experiencing true desperation.
Admittedly, I'm not very old. I live in a small town. But I'm thinking maybe once I move for college i'll have better luck going out in the real world and meeting people there lol. Im just, once again, worried nobody will think I'm attractive.
Any advice is welcome!