Feeling left out when my fiancé spends time with just the men
My fiancé and I are getting married soon and I’ll be moving to the state he is currently living in. We are facing an issue with balancing time with each other vs with friends. He has more friends in the new state since he’s been there longer and loves to have time with the guys while we’re at a party together, but I don’t have friends to hang out with there.
I don’t really fit in with the women - most of them have kids and kinda keep to themselves or talk about baby stuff. But then the men (including my fiancé) start disappearing from the co-ed group and go off to their own conversation separately. That leaves me with no one to talk to most of the time and an empty feeling, like I have to find something to keep busy while I try not to feel left out by my fiance who is just trying his best to balance his time with me vs others. It would be weird for me to go up and join the guys’ conversation, but I usually would rather do what the men are doing rather than the women.
I wish it were easier for me to join in on their conversations sometimes while still letting my fiance enjoy time with just the men on occasion. He shouldn’t have to choose between me or them, but the social situations we are in always force him to choose and then feel guilty no matter what he does. I don’t want that for him or for me.
Once I live there and have friends of my own, I’m sure it’ll get better, but I still feel weird about the men disappearing and having the good conversations I wish I could be a part of and the women being left to figure out something else to do.
He is always happy to spend time with me, but I still feel guilty for keeping him from his friends. It seems like we’ve tried everything and can’t figure this issue out. Please help us!