u/cephaeli

I’ve been on three dates with this guy and we’re planning a fourth. After our third date, he told me he really likes me and wants to keep seeing me, and we kissed.

The problem is that on our third date, I felt like he barely asked me anything about myself. We had fun and laughed, but there were awkward silences while we were walking. I asked him about a philosophy book he was reading, and afterward he asked if I read too, but it honestly felt like he was just trying to fill the silence. He only started asking me more questions toward the end of the date before taking me for ice cream and kissing me.

His texting has also gotten progressively slower and is very formal/robotic, almost ChatGPT-like 😭 We mostly talk about date logistics rather than our everyday lives. Today he even told me something about his mom that he’d already told me before, so apparently he didn’t remember telling me.

At the same time, he keeps planning dates, suggests things for us to do, and has explicitly told me he likes me. But overall, he just feels very detached to me, and I don’t really feel like he’s trying to get to know me on a deeper level.

I’m supposed to see him for a fourth date soon. Am I overthinking this? Would you go on the fourth date and see how he acts, or does this sound like a lack of genuine interest?

I’ve been on three dates with this guy. After our third date, he told me he really likes me and wants to keep seeing me. We kissed, and he’s still suggesting ideas for future dates.

The confusing part is that his texting has gotten progressively slower. His messages are also very formal/polite and sometimes sound almost robotic, like ChatGPT wrote them 😭 We don’t really talk about our days or have much conversation over text except to plan dates.

I also noticed on our third date that he didn’t really ask me many questions about myself. We talked and laughed, but most of the conversation stayed pretty light, and then he kissed me.

Last night was also the first time he went the whole night without messaging me, even though he was up late. He eventually replied this morning (also late) and said:

> “Yeah, I was thinking we were going out Saturday but turns out we are going out Friday 😭 For Tuesday around 6 would be good, I can be flexible though if a different time works better for you 😊

And don’t worry, if we need to shorten it and just do the movie and a walk afterwards, that would still be fun 😊 I don’t want you to be stressed about timing or anything.”

But I have a few concerns:

1. His texts sometimes sound robotic, almost like ChatGPT wrote them 😭

2. We usually go out on Fridays, and now suddenly his Friday isn’t free. Maybe it’s just a coincidence, but he was also out late last night and wasn’t replying to me. It makes me wonder if he’s seeing someone else and saving Fridays for her, and the thing with his mom’s birthday is just an excuse.

3. During our last date, he didn’t really ask me questions about myself, and now he’s suggesting that if we’re short on time, we can skip dinner and just do the movie and a walk. The movie is literally the part where we can’t talk 😭

It feels like all my concerns are coming true at the same time. Curious what you guys think.