u/cetty13

My LO can walk but needs a wheelchair to go anywhere further than 20 feet at more than a snail's pace. I used to go on walks all the time through a state park nearby, and she would love to go with me, if we had a way to do it. The path is dirt, it's relatively flat (no potholes) but has some inclines and declines. I have the strength to push her, but my concern is having a chair with wheels that can handle that kind of terrain. Think jogging stroller. I can take my double wide jogging stroller through there. Is there something similar for wheelchairs?

I'm a 31yo stay at home mom with a husband and two kids. We have (had?) plans for at least one more kid and I'm kind of running short on time in that department. I'm currently in school, after a decade break, to finally get my degree. However, my grandma, who I'm very close with, recently went from "independent" to 1x hands-on assist due to a rare form of Parkinson's. Nobody in my family wants her to go to a nursing home, so everyone (mom, siblings, cousins, aunt) have scrambled to make a living situation in my state possible. She's originally from a different state four hours away. She's currently living with my mom, but she has a lot of foster kids and it's been hard on her to provide good care for all of them. A new, permanent living situation is needed.

The situation presented was buy a new house that fits my grandparents needs and have someone live in the lower level. I'm the only grandkid in the area that doesn't own a home, so I was kind of voluntold to do this. I'm ok with it, but am worried about losing all of my independence and adding a lot to my plate. There will be help overnight, and my mom who will live close by says she'll be over every day, but I worry that over time the help will dwindle and I'll be doing this as well as handling my own kids alone.

I love my grandma and I am very grateful that she has included me in the house hunt because she wants the house to have "whatever I need". The only "bill" she wants from me is to set aside money every month in a high-yield savings account so when the time comes I have money for a home of my own.

I don't really care if this is considered a good or bad deal, I'm just happy that she feels safe with me and we can keep her as independent as possible for as long as possible. I guess I'm just prematurely grieving the life I currently have. I'm scared of the future and how the outlook for my own desires and goals may have changed permanently.

I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just needed to vent. I suppose either type of feedback is welcome. Thanks for reading.