Muslim and Christian Women are similar
This is totally random, but I like how I’m in both Christian and Muslim women’s groups on Facebook. They truly resemble each other in many ways, just with different wording and beliefs around certain things. The women in these groups go through a lot of the same shame and struggles when it comes to purity, dating, and relationships. Some women are more strict and traditional, while others are more progressive.
What I’ve noticed, though, is how harshly women are judged when they make mistakes, while men often seem almost immune to the same criticism or consequences. It’s like when men sin, it’s brushed off or normalized, but when women do, they’re tarnished for it and it follows them forever. And honestly, it makes me sad to see. I hate that society is still like this, because it’s not just a religious issue, it happens everywhere.
In the process of deconstructing, I’ve realized that being a free thinker without religious ideologies constantly shaping every thought has made me look at society and morality differently. I think it’s better to judge people based on how they treat others rather than focusing so heavily on their sexuality or personal choices.
One thing that deeply bothers me is how, when someone is assaulted, people immediately start bringing up purity culture instead of focusing on the actual harm that was done. It feels incredibly tone deaf. Instead of addressing the real issue, they blame the woman for “putting herself in that situation,” and that’s honestly so sad to me.
There are so many things I’ve noticed, but this would turn into such a long post.