u/chatty_catto

Finally mustered the courage to post my profile in this sub. It’s a bit long, so I appreciate you reading it, but if you want, there’s a TL;DR at the end. :)

Age: Turning 31 in June.

Height, weight, physique
I’m 5'3.5" and 45 kg. I look veeeery young, and I’ve been told I look like a sophomore still studying at university. I’m petite and lean, with a fair complexion, decent hair and beard, and green/hazel eyes (sorry, I had to mention them since they’re the highlight of my looks).

Location: DHA 2, Islamabad. Originally from Karachi, but we moved when I was 7. Most of my extended family, cousins and all, live in Karachi.

Accommodation: Owned by parents, and I live with them.

Education: Bachelor's in Business Administration from NUST H12. O/A levels background.

Income Source: I work as a Product Marketer remotely for B2B SaaS companies. Currently working for a UK/US-based company, from Pakistan, on a European pay scale. Alhumdulillah Alhumdulillah.

Marital Status: Single, never married.

Religion & Short Details About How Practicing You Are

• Sunni, Syed, and Urdu speaking.
• I pray 5 times a day, fast during the month of Ramadan, and offer my zakat.
• Besides this, I am a strong believer in huqooq-ul-Ibad. I grew up in a house where my mother offered free food to animals and the underprivileged, and my dad supported her even when times were tough for us. So being charitable has been an important part of my upbringing.
• I haven't gone for Hajj or Umrah yet but I'd like to go with my future wife, InshaAllah.

Hobbies & Interests
I never really know what to say in this part, as my hobbies have evolved over time, but here's a short list of stuff I'm into/was into

• Used to be big into sports. Turning into a burnt chicken nugget while playing outside was the norm every day. I don't play sports anymore, but I work out 3 days a week and go on a 3km walk 6 days a week.
• Used to play pc/console games but I don't anymore, would love to get back into it someday. Nowadays, its just watching YT or anime and working or doing research on different things like cars, gadgets, tech, stocks, etc.
• Watching football regularly. I am an Arsenal fan 💀 (those who know, know).
• I occasionally go and hang out with my friends, who are absolutely the nicest bunch in the sense that they understand I don't like leaving my house, but they ask every time and also pick me up from my house if I'm being too stubborn.
• I like trying new types of food and drinks, not necessarily new restaurants, but different flavors.

Personality

• I’m an empathetic person, so it’s very easy for me to feel the pain of other people or animals, as well as their joy and happiness. I have a strong internal locus of control (I think), and I very rarely succumb to peer pressure. I don’t really believe in personality types because they put you in a box, but mine is ISFJ, in case you were wondering.
• My friends and family say that I'm a kind, thoughtful, and respectful person. My phuppo used to say that I was a "bacha ma'n ka sacha".
• I’m an ambivert, so if I want to, I can speak well in social or family gatherings. With that said, I prefer speaking less unless I’m very comfortable around you. I’m generally soft-spoken, and loud people can be a bit intimidating for me.
• I have a provider mindset, and that’s part of the reason why I delayed marriage so I could have enough savings to build a good life with my future wife. With that said, if you want to, you’ll have my support to continue working after marriage.

Family Details

• Father: Mechanical Engineer from NED University, has his own business now
• Mother: Housewife
• Siblings: 1 elder brother - Mechanical Engineer from NUST H12. Married and lives separately

Preferred mode of communication: Urdu. Coworkers ke sath English may baatein karkar ke thak jata hoon. :(

Requirements for a Partner

• I envision marriage as a partnership rather than a competition, so it would be nice if we share the same mindset.
• Someone who's smart, kind, practical, and knows how to carry the responsibilities of deen and dunya.
• Educated from a good university and not too much difference in socioeconomic class. Preference for someone also in tech, but not a requirement.
• Looks matter—not the only thing that matters, but just know that I look very young, so it might feel awkward if you look significantly older than me. I understand my height could be a deal-breaker for many as well, and that’s perfectly fine; I wouldn’t hold it against anyone.
• Someone living closer to RWP/ISL, so it’s easier for our families to meet and for you to visit your parents’ house regularly (if you want to) after marriage.
• Age up to 28.

Deal Breakers

• Drugs, drinking, smoking, vaping and past relationships—I have never engaged in such activities and would prefer my partner to have similar views on them.
• Doesn’t pray or fast. It’s okay if you’re not regular, as long as you acknowledge the importance of praying and fasting, and the responsibility of missing them. No one is perfect, I’m far from it myself, but it’s important to know right from wrong and strive to be a good person and a good Muslim.
• Lacks empathy.
• Hates cats. It's okay if you don't like them, but please be aware that we feed some stray cats, and that could be a deal breaker for you.

Preferred Family Setup: Living with my parents, so it would be just the four of us.

Do You Want Children?: Yes, but not immediately. Maybe 1-2 years after marriage, if and when we're both on the same page.

Timeframe for Marriage: 6-12 Months. It would be nice if we could involve our families after 3-4 weeks. That gives us enough time to get to know each other I think, and also shows that both parties are serious in taking things forward.

TL;DR:
31-year-old Sunni Syed male from Islamabad (DHA 2), originally from Karachi. 5'3.5", 45 kg, petite/lean and fair complexion. Bachelor’s in Business Administration from NUST. Works remotely as a Product Marketer for UK/US B2B SaaS companies (European pay scale). Single, never married.

Practising Muslim (5 prayers, fasting, zakat), values charity and huqooq-ul-ibad, plans Hajj/Umrah with future spouse, InshaAllah. Family-oriented; lives with parents; father is an engineer-turned-businessman, mother is a homemaker; one married brother.

Soft-spoken ambivert with an empathetic, kind, and disciplined personality. Prefers Urdu communication. Enjoys fitness, walks, occasional gaming, YouTube/anime, football (Arsenal fan), and tech/gadget research. Has a provider mindset and is supportive of the spouse working after marriage.

Looking for an educated, kind, empathetic, practical partner (age ≤28), from a similar socioeconomic background, preferably near RWP/ISL, with aligned values (no smoking/drugs/past relationships, is religious). Prefers living with parents after marriage.

Marriage timeline: 6–12 months, with family involvement after 3–4 weeks. Wants kids later (1–2 years after marriage).