u/childishgamblin

Getting custody of my parents two year old male Bernedoodle - advice/tips?

For context: my parents are moving in with my grandmother who isn’t a dog person and also doesn’t have the space. Their two year old standard size male Bernedoodle absolutely loves my fiancé and I and we have a large house with a big fenced in backyard so it seems perfect that he come live with us for a long time or even forever (and my parents agree). The problem is they don’t exercise him or discipline much so he is very hyper. He’s bad about jumping and I’d like that to be mostly controlled so we can enjoy when people come over. I want your best advice and tips/tricks for training and any exercise recommendations to help keep their energy levels down. We’ll obviously do long walks but what else do they love?

The second issue is that we have a 6 year old cat that absolutely hated this dog when he was a small puppy and I’m concerned that this will disrupt her life. I don’t want him to terrorize her since she’s just gotten comfortable in our newer home. If anyone has advice on how to re-acquaint them and help it go smoothly I would appreciate it so much! Again, she hasn’t been around him since he was a few months old and he has calmed a bit since then but we’re going to have him over soon just to see how they do initially. He is such a smart, sweet boy and I would love to bring out the best in him!

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u/childishgamblin — 10 hours ago

Hurt by the genre my PA was watching

I’m a 29(F) seeking some advice or words of encouragement. My partner is a 29(M)PA and has been clean for over a year. I’m feeling hurt and confused, though I feel like I have no right to be. I found and snooped in his old accounts from six years ago on an old phone that showed his playlists and watch history and it traumatized me all over again. He was watching very rough BBC stuff as well as trans videos. He told me previously he only watched POV and MILF stuff but I should’ve known he was downplaying to soften the blow. I know he’s been clean and I’m so proud of him and have noticed the difference in our relationship and sex life. If I hadn’t gone and snooped then I wouldn’t be feeling so shitty and confused right now. Has anyone had a PA partner that was also into this type of content? There is nothing wrong with interracial and trans people in either of our eyes but it’s just the fact that it was really rough sex and some of it was bizarre honestly.

I have OCD and the rumination over this has been killing me. Let me know if y’all have had similar experiences and if anything has helped…thank you in advance 😞

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u/childishgamblin — 7 days ago