I started with this company with a seasonal position in October. They have made my role permanent in March or April. I love what I do and the company. I have a meeting with my supervisor every two weeks to talk about my performance and it’s always high praises on my work and productivity. Given that and my plan to stay with the company long term, would it be appropriate to ask for a $1-2 raise?
I've been a SAHM since 2017. My kids are 9, 7, 5, and 1. My husband has been able to support us through his own business. He helps people learn web development to land jobs in tech. As a SAHM you know, I do pretty much everything. He'll do grocery shopping every now and then and the yard, and give the kids a bath when he can. We bought our first home in 2020 right before Covid. In 2022, a tree fell on our home which we had to move out of temporary and rented a home during renovations. In that time, I worked to bring in extra money, which meant my husband had to pick up the kids from school. My husband supported me somewhat working but wanted to me to do the web development courses so I can get a decent job as the job I got hired was in a daycare which didn't pay much but it was something. We moved back to our home which he says he spent all his savings to fix the house in August of 2023. I didn't even stay there for a year as my husband couldn't focus on the business which was our main source of incomes due to having to also taking care of the kids my first 3 since I was at work. After I left that job, I found out I was pregnant with our youngest. She was born in July 2024. After my daughter was born, I'm actively applying to jobs that are remote. Had a couple interviews but never worked out. I was hired at a company 5 minutes from my house, didn't even last there a week. Went one day and didn't go back. As much as I want to help financially it just doesn't work out because I, I, I have to take care of the kids. Putting 4 kids in daycare was not in our budget. In the end our home was costing to much to maintain, we sold it and now we are in a rental. I feel bad because I'm not helping financially to somehow possibly save our home but when I get the chance, just doesn't work out. To cut the story short because now I feel like I wrote too much, I'm now WFH. I make enough to pay the groceries and the electricity and some other bills. Kids are at home and I still do everything. But to him it's still not enough. He says that I'm his biggest investment. He tells me that if he had help from the beginning we would of still been in our house and never had to move. He says he took out loans so we could just stay until I found something to add financially. He recently found a job that is sometimes 2 hours to get to due to traffic. He argues with me often having to take the job to get extra money coming to pay the debt. If I don't figure something else out, he's just going to have to leave me because he can't deal with all the stress. He worked so hard to get us that home and fix it up and we lost it. He says I don't see how hard he's had to work and I do. I appreciate everything he has done for us to give us the life we have but did I not have a part in that as well? Provide you a clean home, clean clothes, cooked meals, kids taken care of while you built up your business. I understand he needed help financially but when I did it, it couldn't work. Now we're working towards paying off our debt and save to hopefully buy a new home. I'm honestly anxious every day that he comes home from work if he's going to be upset and argue with me when he gets home to continuously put fault on me in the situation we're in. I have a deadline and I'm mentally preparing myself for that day that he does decide to just leave. I feel so alone. I don't call my mom like I used to or talk with my family or friends. I don't want to talk to them about this because I don't want them thinking of him differently. What do I do?