u/chrispina98

I'm the parent of a newly turned 18 nonbinary kiddo. They've been out since age 11 and we did the legal name change when they were 14 in a red state. We got the name changed on their passport and requested the X, but it just came back with their agab and we decided not to deal with it right away because it's a pain and we would deal with it when it was time to get a learner's permit. Then we moved to a lovely blue state and applied for the learner's permit but we needed some document for the gender that we didn't have, so we figured we would deal with it when we got a driver's license. Then the presidential election happened and lots of drama about gender and passports and we were kinda relieved that it didn't work the first time.

More life happened and kiddo is 18 now and we haven't done much for driver's ed, but we were planning to finish it all this summer before college. We were looking into the requirements for a license that are different when the applicant is over 18 and one thing that came up was the gender marker.

So... We currently can't get a passport with an X gender, but we can get a driver's license. What do we need to consider before deciding whether to do it? Will we have trouble traveling with an ID with an X gender, even if we travel to or from red states? If we travel internationally, will it be a problem if the gender on the passport is agab and the gender on the state ID is X? I think we could choose to just travel with the passport, but I'm being a fretting parent and worrying about my kid being targeted by the government, especially since we might need air travel to leave if things get worse. We also need to finish registering to vote, but we hope to get that completed before the SAVE Act passes and makes everything more complicated, especially for people who have a different gender/name on their ID than on their birth certificate.

Kiddo is an adult and will make the final decision and I will support them, but I want to arm them with all the info first. State is CO, if that's relevant.

In Colorado. My youngest is 18 and will be leaving for college in the fall. When my oldest turned 18 in Texas, a lawyer friend prepared our documents: Medical POA, Durable POA, FERPA Release, and HIPPA Release. We have since moved to Colorado. Can I basically copy and paste the documents we have and switch out addresses and names for both kids to sign, maybe with a notary?

I've asked my TX lawyer friend for a recommendation of someone in CO and she hasn't gotten back to me. She also can't do it for us from Texas. I've also poked around here for a referral from some family members and they haven't given me any names. I don't really just want to post on a local group for a rando and I know lots of families just buy templates online and don't involve lawyers at all. Can we update these documents ourselves and then make a new version for my other child?

Thanks!