u/cnyc20

Gay friendship-breakups

Has anyone gone through this? It’s been about three years since we cut contact and I still think about him a lot. Probably the most I’ve ever platonically loved a friend ever and the fact that I recognize it was mostly my fault that the friendship ended makes it more painful. He was also my first close gay friend and we learned and grew from/alongside a lot with each other. I still run into him time to time since we run in adjacent social circles in the same city and we remain civil if not slightly awkward.

I’ve made gay friends since and have been more or less taking full advantage of gay life in the city or whatever but I’m still not fully over the breakup even if I’ve made peace with it. I’ve also never been in a relationship so idk if this is a worse heartbreak than a bf-breakup but it’s genuinely to date still the most grief-inducing event I’ve gone through.

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u/cnyc20 — 3 days ago

Happy-post for a change: I had a really wonderful Pride month

I feel like I really settled into Brooklyn this year and really made it a habit to stop being such a hater and more importantly, just saying yes to every social opportunity than came my way. Stopped caring so much about how I look on the dance floor and being scared to talk to new people.

Idk it’s nothing revolutionary, just took the time to make changes to my habits and personality that I finally took seriously this year as I’m now officially in my late 20s and I’m just really happy that I managed to manifest a sense of belonging and community that I haven’t really felt since undergrad as corny as that sounds.

I genuinely hope all of you had a nice June, I’m feeling a lot of affinity towards you all today.

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u/cnyc20 — 9 days ago

Have a gay guy trip coming up in a few days stressed

I agreed to go to a music festival with a friend months ago and now I’m going down to DC in a couple days to stay in an Airbnb full of mostly stranger gay guys. I have no clothes and I’m the most out of shape I’ve been all year and not feeling particularly sexy atm.

Please give some advice I’m not great around big groups of gay men I don’t know for extended periods of time especially when my body’s not giving.

Edit: If anyone has a playlist of gay-coded hits post-Brat I’d highly appreciate it bc I’ve been very not following new music recently.

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u/cnyc20 — 1 month ago