Thought?
Hello! Thanks to everyone and for this group for existing and sharing. We can do it 🫶
I have had schema therapy in the past year, love it, still working on it.
I know my main schemas and modes, but just now I got a trigger that usually makes me feel REALLY BAD
That is when I am with my partner and other friends, and they ask my partner about their life/job/whatever and they share some brand new important news/information casually to them, while I have not heard that before.
My mind races, “why does my partner not share this funny story from last week with me”, “why share it with Jon Doe before me”, “I didn’t know you were looking for a car”, things like that
I feel excluded, ignored, clueless, naive, not important, or like the other recipients of the info are more important
I shut down, close up, vulnerable child af, try to not annoy but take my distance
Just wanted to rant a bit, and wonder what schemas fit here bc abandonment doesn’t seem to be it