r/SchemaTherapy

Self-Directed Schema Possible ?

Hello everyone!

I won't go into much detail about my multiple medical diagnosis, but I was wondering if it's possible to slowly practice schema therapy in daily life through self directed means of journaling/any other method that is effective. I am ready to invest a couple of years into this. The reason I am not looking to get a professional is because I have no money for it right now, truly, no income source etc.

I have changed therapists over the years, 4 of them so far and am on medication as well. I suspect because of my AvPD I am having a hard time getting the most out of the sessions and it becomes a repetitive cycle of hitting a plateau and not improving beyond a point, I am a pretty self aware dude, more than most people are. It's enough for me to recognise the patterns as they are happening or after the fact, a lot of times I miss them entirely and have to go through a conflict to understand it and reflect on it. I don't think I can afford to go to therapy anymore, so I was wondering what can be effective ways to go through the book Reinventing Your Life.

It would be great if I can get some pointers through someone who has some proficiency for Schema Therapy, of course, not as medical advice, just as a way for me to spend some time nurturing myself, until my funds are in a better position to be able to afford a therapist.

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u/gielrebel — 11 days ago

Emotional deprivation and dating world

Hello everyone. It’s no secret that the dating world sucks for everyone, but i can’t help but notice how difficult it is when you have emotional deprivation as your lifetrap. I just feel like everything hits twice as hard as someone regular, and with this dating world and all of the ghosting you’re just being susceptible to it 24/7. Like I was talking to a girl for a week, she flirted back and showed strong reciprocative signals. She wasn’t very special besides that but my emotional deprivation mode liked that so much. It really hurted when she cancelled the date today. 

I’ll probably get over this fast and i know how to rationally think about this, but sometimes with emotional deprivation stuff like this just really stings. Just wanted to vent but if anyone has some emotional deprivation specific or Defectiveness lifetrap tips, for sure do let me know! 

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u/Superhero-Motivation — 12 days ago