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I’ve been seeing my schema therapist for 3 years and I’m confused about something in the therapeutic relationship and wondering if it’s normal in schema therapy.

She checks in on me fairly regularly between sessions, especially when I’m struggling. She’s never pressured me or crossed boundaries, and honestly she’s one of the safest people I’ve ever known. I’m autistic, have severe trauma, and don’t really have anyone else in my life, so those check-ins can make me feel less alone and emotionally held in a way I’ve never really experienced before.

At the same time, it feels very emotionally intense and vulnerable because I’m not used to someone consistently caring or staying present. I keep wondering whether this level of contact is something that can happen in schema therapy, especially with trauma/attachment difficulties, or whether my situation is unusual.

I’ve spoken to her about it and she’s reassured me, but I still feel confused by the emotional impact it has on me more than by her behaviour itself.

I’ve been seeing my schema therapist for 3 years and I’m confused about something in the therapeutic relationship and wondering if it’s normal in schema therapy.

She checks in on me fairly regularly between sessions, especially when I’m struggling. She’s never pressured me or crossed boundaries, and honestly she’s one of the safest people I’ve ever known. I’m autistic, have severe trauma, and don’t really have anyone else in my life, so those check-ins can make me feel less alone and emotionally held in a way I’ve never really experienced before.

At the same time, it feels very emotionally intense and vulnerable because I’m not used to someone consistently caring or staying present. I keep wondering whether this level of contact is something that can happen in schema therapy, especially with trauma/attachment difficulties, or whether my situation is unusual.

I’ve spoken to her about it and she’s reassured me, but I still feel confused by the emotional impact it has on me more than by her behaviour itself.

I’ve been seeing my schema therapist for 3 years now and I’m a bit confused about something in the therapeutic relationship and wanted to ask if this is normal within schema therapy.

My therapist reaches out to check on me fairly regularly between sessions, especially when I’m struggling. She never pressures me, never crosses boundaries, and honestly has been one of the safest people I’ve ever known. I’m autistic, have severe trauma, and basically don’t really have anyone else in my life, so sometimes those check-ins make me feel less alone and more emotionally held than I’ve ever experienced before.

At the same time, it also feels very vulnerable and intense for me emotionally, because I’m not used to someone caring or staying present. I think part of me keeps wondering whether this level of contact/checking in is normal for schema therapy specifically, or whether my situation is unusual.

She’s never done anything that felt manipulative or inappropriate, and I genuinely can’t fault her clinically. I think I’m more confused by the emotional impact it has on me than by her behaviour itself.

Is regular therapist check-in/contact something that can happen in schema therapy, especially with severe trauma/attachment issues, autism, etc. Or is this outside what would normally happen in this modality?

I have spoken to her about it, despite her reassurances, I continue to feel confused.

Hi everyone,

I’m feeling quite scared about trying Montelukast again, and was wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience.

A few years ago, when I tried it, I felt like my mood really did not agree with it. I experienced quite significant psychological side effects, and it made me stop the medication fairly quickly. Because of that, I’ve been very hesitant to ever try it again.

However, more recently, two different specialists have independently recommended that I consider giving it another try because of my symptoms and possible MCAS involvement.

I’m feeling really conflicted because part of me worries I’ll experience the same reaction again, while another part wonders whether the context could be different this time, especially as my health picture is clearer now and I would be approaching it more cautiously.

I was wondering if anyone had a bad experience with montelukast the first time, but a better or more tolerable experience when retrying it later? Did anyone find that starting at a very low dose or introducing it differently helped? Or did your body/mast cell symptoms improve enough that the benefits outweighed the psychiatric side effects?

I know everyone reacts differently, and I’m not looking for medical advice, just hoping to hear other people’s experiences because I’m honestly quite anxious about it.

Thank you.

I don’t know how to put this into words, but something happened in my therapy session today that’s stayed with me.
At the end of the session, my therapist sat down on the floor and read to me. She did it to help me feel safer. It was such a small, simple thing, but it didn’t feel small at all.
I think I’m struggling to take it in properly. Part of me feels really moved, and another part doesn’t quite know what to do with it. I’m not used to that kind of gentleness being directed at me, especially when I’m not okay.
There was something about the way she did it, calm, unhurried, just being there, that made things feel a tiny bit less overwhelming.
I don’t really have a question. I just needed to share this somewhere because it feels important, even if I don’t fully understand why yet.
I will bring it up in our next session but I wanted to share it here.