Very little attraction in my relationship
When me and my partner first got together I was obsessed with him and thought he was the most handsome man in the whole world. 2 years later (won’t be married for likely another 2 years due to age and finances) I am really struggling to find him attractive at all. I think it’s because we don’t have sex and there’s a weird sense of rejection. I know I can’t have sex with him so I struggle to see him as more than a friend? I don’t know if this makes any sense. I struggled with lust before so I feel like I like trained myself not to see him as attractive in that way so I wouldn’t want to have sex but now it sucks. He’s an amazing partner and I hope when we get married and have physical intimacy I can see him like that again?
I don’t think I’ll be breaking up with him over this or anything like that. I think it’s my brain trying to cope with lust. He’s genuinely a great man and is so loveable. Any advice or experience or encouragement would be great.