u/coolcat770

I (29F) have been giving my parents money over the years. I don't even work so technically, my husband gave it to them.
My mother is 56 and my dad is 61. Both of them are not working right now and my dad gets disability checks.

In 2018, my parents did not have the money for property taxes on the family home.
They waited until the last minute, literally ONE month before the house was due for a tax sale to try to come up with the money. My husband then boyfriend took out a loan for $8,000 and sent them the money. They did not return it, even though later, they were in a position to.

In 2024, again, my parents were freaking out about not having the money for the property taxes and my husband and I paid $10,000 so they would not lose their home. The total amount due was $12,000 and after reluctantly giving the 10k, my mom asked if I could just "pay the whole thing." I said no and my uncle paid $2,000. Even after all this, my mom asked if I could pay the electricity bill for $1200 because the lights were about to get shut off. I said no. I couldn't believe she would even ask after how much we paid.

Since then, they still text and call me over emergencies I’m not responsible for. They need money for the internet bill. They need money for the water bill. They need money for whatever. If I say I don't have any money, they tell me to use a credit card. I don't want to!!

I told my mom a few months ago I can’t keep doing this anymore because it’s damaging my finances and it’s incredibly draining. She said she wouldn’t ask me for anything ever again and she didn’t want to be a burden.

I don’t live in the same state and recently came back to visit for my brother’s graduation. The requests are still coming and now they keep asking for $10, $20, small amounts. I guess they think I don’t mind. My mom was out the other day and texted to ask for $14 for a subway sandwich. I texted back I didn’t have it and she “disliked” the text. Later, she asked me for $2.

I’m so tired.