u/cosmicsven

Like many of you with children in this dynamic, I'm deeply concerned about transmission. What are you doing to keep enmeshment from reaching them?

My son recently said to me "Daddy doesn't care about us, he just cares about his mom and dad." It absolutely broke my heart and I did not install that. He's SEVEN.

I have them in general play therapy to practice identifying emotions. I co-regulate with them and validate that they are people with their own feelings. I make sure I repair and model repairing with others. I constantly tell them I love them and there is nothing they could do to change that.

I would be interested to hear other tips/ideas on building emotional intelligence.