u/cozyelephant_

I'm really torn and would love some advice from people who've been in a similar situation.

I adopted my dog about a year ago. He's 10 years old, around 30 lbs, and is very attached to me. He also has an amazing relationship with my parents and loves their home in Toronto.

My fiancé is in medical school in NYC, and I recently accepted a job there, so I'll be moving to New York. We'll both be working in person. My dog is fine being left alone for a few hours, so that's not my biggest concern.

What I'm struggling with is what's best for him.

If he moves with me, he'll be in a much smaller apartment, and because he's too big to fly in the cabin, he'd have to travel in cargo if I flew between Toronto and NYC. I don't love making that drive, but I also want him to keep seeing my parents since they're such a big part of his life.

If he stays with my parents, I know he'd be incredibly loved, have a yard, and stay in a familiar environment. But the thought of not living with him breaks my heart.

I was hoping to visit Toronto every 8 weeks, but I'm wondering if moving him back and forth at his age would be more stressful than beneficial.

For those who've had senior dogs, is it generally better to prioritize one stable home, or is living with me worth the occasional travel? I want to make the decision that's best for him, not just the one that's easiest for me.

It’s 2026 and I’m starting to plan ahead for my wedding, which I’m hoping will be in late 2027 or early 2028.

We’re based in the GTA (Ontario) and I’m looking for some advice and recommendations for a destination wedding planner/company that is:

• Affordable / realistic for a mid-range budget
• Experienced with Indian/Hindu multi-day weddings (3–4 days)
• Comfortable handling larger guest counts (around 150–200 people)
• Ideally able to manage destination logistics end-to-end (venues, travel coordination, decor, etc.)

A bit about our situation:

• My fiancé is in medical school, so his schedule is VERY demanding
• His family is quite large, mine is smaller, so there’s already a bit of imbalance
• I’m already feeling a bit overwhelmed by the idea of planning a traditional multi-day wedding
• Weddings honestly stress me out, so I’m really hoping to find a solid planner who can take the lead
• We’re not super picky about the destination — open to anywhere that is beautiful but still budget-friendly

We’re mainly looking for:

• Planner recommendations (GTA-based or destination specialists)
• Real experiences if you’ve done something similar
• Rough budget ranges for weddings like this
• Any destinations that work well for large Indian weddings without going completely overboard in cost

If you’ve done a destination Indian wedding or worked with planners who made it manageable, I’d really appreciate hearing your experience.