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for me coming out as plural is similar to coming out as trans. I’d like a major shift in behaviour and the way im conceptualised.

i want someone to ask who I am. I want someone to acknowledge me. and someone to acknowledge us. Both that there is a group and that there is an individual talking and knowledge of who that individual is. I’d like to be known and known deeply and for someone to get to know us individually.

I want plural pronouns used for the group and singular pronouns used for individuals. I want freedom to be contradictory as a group. I want them to read about plurality to get a better understanding.

I want them to ask specifically if there’s anything they could do to make me feel more comfy being plural around them or more seen or validated.

one of my friends did this for us and cracked many jokes bc they’re that kind of person and coming out as plural to them was the best decision I ever made. I feel so much closer to him

what does everymany want?

there’s trans jokes in trans subs so what are some good plural jokes?

im not very funny so here’s my attempt:

”hmm. ask me again in five minutes I’ll change my mind”

edit: joke

edit2: pls pls pls comment what you think is a good plural joke in the comments pls pls pls

can we just appreciate that we experience joys that singlets may never know of?

Things like literally feeling someone loving you, knowing deeply they love you because you FEEL it. Even simple things like someone taking over when you need a break, having a community or family who you know will always be there. Mental hugs

What other purely positive purely plural experiences have yall experienced?

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When a professional tells me alters aren’t people I feel unsafe. To me person is an ethical category of how to treat said category. My last therapist had different views on personhood which I thought I could maybe work with but then she said things like “a goal could be to have one alter in control most of the time and everyone else comes out to perform a function”. I’m just less certain that a professional who doesn’t consider me a person understands the phenomenology of DID much less plurality and I feel very uncertain of their ethics on how to treat “non-persons”.

Then I look online at others‘ experiences and the picture seems bleak. r/DID is full of people claiming alters aren’t people and actively encouraging that view. And the DID specialist therapist I recently fired said it was the ”clinical consensus” that alters aren’t people. I went to an LGBT organisation to see if I could get help there and they didn’t understand that treating alters like parts is dehumanising.

We’re people. And that’s important.

edit: does anyone feel the same? I feel like I’m losing my mind with singlets who don’t get it

TW: pluralphobia, dehumanisation, antipsychotics, exorcisms, medicalism, homelessness

We live in a pluralphobic society.

Singlets often ask, rhetorically and sarcastically, about the hardships plural folk face in society.

There ARE hardship, even if we’re not subjected to anti plural laws. Such as the following troubling list of hardships.

Plural folk are often dismissed as delusional or as being hallucinations. This leads to forced antipsychotics, which once on are hard to get off of. This is an inherently dehumanising experience as it reduces people to being non-conscious and stops headmates from being seen as people who need to be treated ethically.

Medicalism has created a problem where in order to be considered a person one needs a diagnosis. I have to stress that it is personhood which is at stake when someone denies headmates as real.

Even with a DID or OSDD diagnosis headmates are not considered people. I’ve had several professionals tell me that I am not a person, including a DID specialist.

We may be misdiagnosed again and again and again because we hide our plurality and therefore aren’t understood by mental health professionals.

Plural folk may also be exorcised and subject to religious trauma due to being plural. This is not my experience however so I will not expand upon it.

On the milder side plural folk may not be given accommodations at university due to not having a diagnosis and therefore not having something to explain memory issues.

Many plural folk are scared to be themselves in front of their friends and family. They’re scared of their place of employment finding out and discriminating against them as there are no laws against discriminating against a plural persons

The mainstream media depicts plurality as purely traumagenic and portrays us as violent killers.

On the darker side: there are many plural people who become homeless.

So, yes, we live in a pluralphobic society that causes a lot of pain to our community and singlets need to wake up and realise that.

Any other pluralphobic hardships I missed? Comment below.