Is there a divide in who you should date as to whether they’re red pill brainwashed or right winged and you’re left winged?
I am completely overwhelmed with sadness at the divide of the world. Left and right wing, it is completely two opposing teams that I struggle to believe will ever change. Humans should have never of been this divided and in my opinion a lot of it is due to social media, propaganda and brain washing that is used on today’s society.
Every time I meet a great guy, who’s been through a lot on life, trying his best to be a good person. I then always discover their right winged views… the disappointment I feel gutters me. I know this person deserves love, instinctively I know deep down they’re a soft person who has all capability of feeling empathy, love, emotions, and kindness. But when I hear their stances on things, their opinions, their passionate arguments about conspiracies and beliefs o then quickly realise, they’re just as brainwashed as the last.
I’m an incredibly empathetic person who sees the best in all humans but I strong beliefs in many areas as well where I feel I can’t budge and cave for a man even though I so badly want to be able to offer them the love I have to give.
I recently broke up with an ex of mine to hold myself to those standards, his right winged views were taking a toll on me, he loved Andrew Tate, trump, manosphere type stuff but not completely radicalised. He was a great guy who saw many other things in similar ways to myself and we agreed on other topics such as: universe, grounding, meditation, health and fitness, plastic problems, growing own food, being outside in sunlight, ancient history, manifestation and things like that. But I couldn’t get past the right winged stuff that I felt like he wouldn’t budge in (anti-semetic, hating trans, homophobia).
Recently I have met a new guy, treats me with chivalry, kind, caring, came from a very traumatic background with a lot of violence and at the start my empathy kicked in, I wanted to show him real love, help him see the world isn’t as scary as what he was brought up in but now… I see his right winged views, the same as my ex (manosphere, red pill, conspiracies, hate speech) there are so many similarities in their beliefs that I know.. I know it’s brainwashing from influence online, from social media, from politics, from people in positions of power. Most of them don’t realise what side their beliefs even are, or the fact that they’ve been brainwashed of course. That’s the scary part but the patterns are clear, as soon as I hear one belief and opinion I know what the rest will be too.
What do I do… can I help these men?
Do I suggest books, suggest shows, continue to try and push my views onto them, confine to try and help them see different perspectives. Or is it a lost cause.
I know there are so many men out here like this, not all extremists, some with only a few of these beliefs but it’s still opposite to me.
And I know why they end up on this side becayse they were once lost boys who had nothing to turn to for help and got washed up under the influence of a system that seeks vulnerable men to brainwash. Or their parents had these views or what they saw from their masculine figures.
It is not these guys fault… they did their best to just survive and their survival technique meant they ended up on the other side of me, on opposite wings.
This is a high percentage of men, if I rule out dating or loving any men with these opposite beliefs and outlooks, the dating pool not only gets severely smaller but it leaves men like these guys unable to experience the love they might deserve deep down. I want to be able to show these men the care they deserve just as all humans deserve love and care but I can’t let go of these things that are concerns to me… I can’t drop what I deserve.
Please if anyone has any advice or just understands what I’m saying, please let me know. Are there ways to change their perspectives that you’ve found?
Can I unlock that deep soft core of theirs?
Do I just move on and only look for left winged Men?