Anyone have any experience with people who expect some sort of romantic relationship after helping you?
I'm not bragging in any part of this post, but I'm tall and not heinously ugly so despite never going out and never hitting on girls, I somehow always have someone trying to "fix me", and given my former CA status, the help is often welcomed, purely as medical intervention.
But cut to months later when I'm in my familiar sober state, these people want to cash in on what I always treat as a valuable friendship, but it's something more to them.
I guess my question is, how do you honor an important relationship like that in early sobriety? Unfortunately, I feel like I have to be selfish lately, as in not wanting to go out to bars to have "non-alcoholic" drinks or even just being around people drinking in general.
The simple answer is to just explain all this, which I've tried politely, but that somehow translates into me feeling super vulnerable with this specific person, making them more attached.