r/dryalcoholics

The vibe here is off the charts banana pants.

I used this sub every day for years, then took a long break, and now when I come back the vibe is totally changed and everyone needs to go to the hospital.

Yall are talking to people who are nervous about alcohol WD and giving them the most doom and gloom advice ever. Some people are posting and not even mentioning WD symptoms and the comments are recommending they go the hospital or detox. This is absurd.

>RandomOP : hey guys i get some anxiety and insomnia from alcohol wd what do

>SeriousCommentGuy : BROTHER PLEASE TAKE THIS SERIOUS AND GO TO THE ER RIGHT NOW OR DEFINITELY TOMORROW CHECK IN TO A $15,000 DETOX

Stop talking to them like you're some kind of professional and they are presenting with serious WD issues that could be life threatening.

• YES some people do have seizures

• YES some people do die from alcohol withdraw

• BUT it's usually a pretty long road to get there and people arent falling over dead from their 2nd taper attempt

Thousands (millions?) of serious alcoholics go through SERIOUS withdraw symptoms every day and dont die.

M22 still living with parents and don't need to pay for anything. Yes, I know I'm privileged. Recently i got a job as a server (Alcohol free establishment thankfully) and i make cash tips. I can ALWAYS afford beer now. The times I've stopped drinking was because I was broke. Now i get beer after every shift. I need to seriously think about ways to stop but I don't know any. Please tell me

36/m. After 6 years of demon mode and being in and out of a dozen treatment centers, I just put the bottle down, in a very non-dramatic fashion. No horrific bender or life altering consequences. I could feel myself going down that familiar road once again and just kind of thought, I'd rather not do this anymore.

First three weeks were predictable, but better than I expected. Anxiety went away completely, traded that for some comforting apathy I suppose. It's a nice middle ground in between severe depression and crippling anxiety. Been hitting the gym, meetings and therapy regularly, eating well, keeping a clean environment, socializing, etc.

But I noticed fairly quickly that the whole one-day-at-a-time mindset was starting to worry me. After weeks of just getting through the day, I realized, that thing I'm just trying to "get through", was my life. 97% of my entire life has become a chore. I'm slugging along just trying to get through the next family get together, activity with my girlfriend, meeting/gym/therapy session. Literally the only thing I truly enjoy, is the small carved out moment late at night, when I can watch movies alone. I realized I was drinking, not to make my life more enjoyable, but to drown out the fact that, with or without booze, it wasn't.

I've told myself I've made peace with all of this and unlike when I was drinking, I'm not in active distress. I had my fun, or lack thereof, lived through it, when many people didn't, and now I'm just looking to live a calm life. Lately, I'm not so sure about all of that. Trading distress for discontent almost feels like functional depression. It's not bad enough to disrupt my life, which has always been my catalyst for change, and that scares me. I've always been grateful that I'm bad at being an alcoholic, that my drinking leads me to the ER and rehabs, because if I was better, I might be trapped in that addiction forever. Now I'm starting to feel that way about my sober life.

Yesterday I recieved a call with a job offer. Though it's contract, its something I genuinely care about, pays enough and will get me quite a bit of community connections if I do a good job. This is after 7 straight months of unemployment. I have 3 weeks of unemployment left, am totally broke and was 2 weeks away from having to put in my 30 days and lose my apartment, and move into my friends basement in a 30 sq foot area with no light. And due to me not paying my debt, my credit is destroyed so God knows how long it would have taken to get out of the situtation. I was going to lose everything I ever worked for. But lo and behold, a solution to my problem right when I needed it. Hooray right? For at least three months I won't have to obsess constantly about how I would need to draw out 1000 dollars to survive another 3 month, looking at storage units and crying. I won!

I am 14 days sober, and in those 14 days I have not wanted a drink once. In fact, the idea grossed me out, remembering my last vomit covered bender. After I hung up the phone, and sat there for a moment, I have never wanted a drink so bad in my fucking life. To stay sober I had to eat a pint of Ben and Jerrys and take enough melatonin to put down a small elephant. I am still thinking about it now. Gonna be a rough day.

I don't get it, I got almost everything I ever asked for, and I can't stop crying and thinking about downing a fifth in the dark. And I am doing so well, before I was drinking to blotto every day, my apartment was disgusting and I was sleeping 17 hours a day, contemplating suicide. All of those things are fixed, my apartment is beautiful now, so why do I just want to drink until I black out? Apparently there can be severe pain in joy, and I am not equipped to handle it. I guess I got 2 weeks out of not fiending, and now it time to pay my dues.

After years of struggling, I'm finally doing it. Today's my birthday and I think the best present I can get myself, is to check in to rehab. T-minus 10 hours. We'll see how this goes, but it can't be worse than what I've been doing to myself for decades. See you all on the other side.

just how do you stop the anxiety. i'm not sober yet but trying to taper and i JUST woke up and i'm so anxious that i could throw up. my heart has been racing all night. i hate this i literally just want to cry and throw up and cry some more

Drank daily for 10+ years, haven’t since July 3rd after tapering and the worst sickness of my life (withdrawal)… I know I have done damage some possibly irreparable to my body. My husband still drinks, is on the couch drinking next to me as I type this 😔 I’m finding myself starting to struggle t stay sober. I feel like I need a group or community, somewhere to go to talk to people who can relate but I don’t think AA is for me, any suggestions would be much appreciated.

After years of drinking, I reach a point where I was drinking a fifth a day; I was medically detoxed & sober for 6 months… well I relapsed 3 months ago & have been drinking everyday for 3 months. I realized a few days ago that what I thought was me only drinking a little, was me taking down a pint & maybe having a miniture bottle of wine afterwards. I’m scared of going back. I want to quit again, but I’m also scared of quitting cold Turkey. Can it be done after a 3 month long relapse & drinking a pint a day? I’m so afraid of bad withdrawals.

So I’ve been having decent sober stints after a 2 year start stop bender (drink 10 days stop 10 etc).

Went to ER twice recently and got lot of Benzos and only took for 2 days and banked the rest. Went to family doc and he gave me more Valium in case. I know you shouldn’t mix them.

So I occasionally took a 5 mg Valium last month (4-5 times) for interviews and worked well and I landed a job which starts in September. I’m in tech very high paying more than last one high six figures.

But I had a big fight with my parents over some shit and relapsed. Took 20mg Valium and a 6 pack. Next day felt brutal so took 10 mg Valium and was fine. Last night again had an argument and took another 10mg Valium. This morning it escalated it again, took 5 mg Valium and now pounding a half pint vodka. I need to be functional by weekend as I fly back home (I was visiting my family as I was laid off). Can’t drink at home obviously. Once an addict always an addict. My entire family judges me even though I’ve been most successful financially atleast.

I have about ten 5 mg Valium pills left. Should I cut the booze and do a slow taper of Valium. I’ve only consecutively taken Valium 3 days max this time so wonder what my tolerance is? Or should I sneak some booze and don’t fuck around with benzos. I knows it’s either or.

Not asking for medical advise I can get more Benzos if needed to taper. I’ve a 2 hour flight tomorrow so trying to plan. I’ll finish this half pint by evening. Then 10mg Valium before flight tomorrow and then 5 mg day after and then go clean.

I know last thing I want is get addicted to benzos too. Benzos are my savior most of the time.

This has been one of the worst summers of my life. I broke a bone (while drunk) and that cost and is costing $1000s… needed a new laptop and that was hundreds…abused DoorDash while drunk while immobilized and living alone also easily hundreds…

I’ve never been down so bad and I’m not struggling but I’ve lost so much money on top of my usual expenses and I’m so demoralized. A good amount of that was alcohol combined with shitty luck but I’m crying. I ordered easily $75 worth of food last weekend and I don’t even remember it. I had to throw stuff away because I ordered and forgot.

I’ve always drank this much but never to this point of being fat, stupid and miserable except maybe after my DUI. But at least I was physically able to work overtime, at least I saved like a mfer in anticipation. At least there was a light at the end. This is just such a series of stupid decisions kicking myself when I’m already down.

I deleted the DoorDash app but after catching another bag I missed and checking my credit card bill from this month, I’m crying. It’s all so stupid. I don’t want to quit drinking bc it’s really the only thing I’ve got but idk what else to do.

Miserable sobriety before I break another bone or go broke?? I fucking hate being sober man I really do hate it so much I’m sorry I cannot keep going like this but I went sober before. Rawdogging life is miserable for me
Sorry I’m crashing out over DoorDash but here we are

Last year, I was doing really well with sobriety. I had 3 months by October, I was in the best shape
of my life and just feeling good overall. Then I lost my job and basically I have just been drinking ever since. It got really bad tho in May, specifically “cinco de mayo” I got absolutely black out hammered and have literally been drinking everyday since then. Sometimes around the clock, sometimes only at night.

I’ve had 1 or 2 days between drinks but it’s really rare. Last week I finally had enough and made it 3 days sober, but on the 4th day I went to the liquor store as soon as I woke up and was drinking all day and then I did again yesterday.

I should mention also, I tried getting jobs in retail and grocery stores just doing literally anything, but I couldn’t land a job until I just got hired bartending again. I seem to only be able to get restaurant jobs and they are mentally draining and keep me drinking. I mean it’s just an excuse for my alcoholism probably but idk. I really hate the feeling alcohol brings but there’s a voice in my head constantly screaming at me to drink. I am now at my highest weight and the ugliest I’ve ever been all because of alcohol.

I drink 9-12 liquor drinks every day with the exception of Sundays when I can’t buy liquor in my state. Some Sundays I have leftovers to drink in the morning to tide me through.

The worst withdrawals I have had ever is in the middle of the night 24 hours after drinking when I get night sweats and some tremors (literally lasts for under 15 minutes).

The longest I have gone is 10 days last June when I got through the initial night of shiver/sweats and was totally fine the rest of the time.

Thoughts? Not asking for medical advice, but the fucks on all of the other subreddits have me anxious.

Almost forgot and then saw another person’s anniversary. 8/15/22 for me. Couldn’t have done it without ‘cha, friends!

I’ve been drinking for 6 days. Have slept and ate regularly. When I woke up this morning I did have the shakes and I had a couple drinks to settle it. I want to stop tomorrow. Can I on my own?

Hey again,

I posted recently about having to cut down my drinking bc i apparently have fatty liver. I'm still doing that but fuck as expected I feel awful.

Same thing happened when I did inpatient. It became more and more apparent why I started drinking. I hate nearly every second of my life. And the worst part is things are actually getting better on paper. I did the things. I have a decent paying job, I have friends, I'm rebuilding my relationship with family, I have pets and spend time with friends. People care about me, I care about others. There's literally nothing really that wrong. I just think I wasn't built to be a happy person. My mother is never happy, my father died of lung cancer but he was never happy either. I just dont have whatever it is that let's me be okay.

Drinking helps me forget all that. Like its not like drinking made me happy, but at least I could forget. I'm in a PHP and everyone seems really good at learning and growing and I am barely able to show up on time. I can't shower without a huge struggle. I'm taking my meds and still everything is so hard.

It feels like I have to pick: dont drink, be unhappy, keep my life together or do drink, ruin my life, but at least it hurts less. And I am still going to quit, I'm doing pretty good at the taper I'm on, and I am miserable.

I didn't know where else to ask this or where to find good information. I'm 17 and I recently stopped drinking about a month ago after drinking pretty heavily for about one and a half years.
I'm considering getting a yart (weed pen) from a friend (its not legal here so its kind of a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity) but im worried that my previous alcohol use might have made my brain more vulnerable and that THC would lead to permanent damage. To clarify, i'd only be buying one yart to try and thats it. Any advice / info is appreachiated <3