u/ObligationPleasant45

Almost forgot and then saw another person’s anniversary. 8/15/22 for me. Couldn’t have done it without ‘cha, friends!

Back from vacation. Have some real clarity that this new role - 9 months - is not for me. Nail in the coffin event yesterday, not huge but a glaring issue with our broken communication & systems, that I really have no more tolerance for.

I perused some job postings and actually saw something that peaked my interest. It would be a total industry pivot. I did apply but later I realized because I didn’t tweak my sales résumé to fit the new language, that particular opportunity is probably not going to pan out. It’s ok, I know better now.

Question is how much do I do in my role? I anticipate the next few weeks, as the last of summer, being slow. I am expected to do in person cold calls. I don’t even want new customers at this point. I was recently told we’re right in the middle of a lot of processes being corrected because of a merger that happened before I was hired. My manager sucks, our “team” is siloed and there is little/no support to customers or prospects other than what I, personally, provide.

Please tell me to suck it the fuck up and how to do that.

Colorado climate. My 83 yo mother lives alone & self sufficient, drives etc. But we were at the ER last night for another episode of: Dehydration, get dizzy, pass out, fall.

I’m relieved that she is ok. I left the ER after 5 hours (midnight), because she was still shaky, they thankfully 🙏, admitted her.

But today I am trying to do my job and trying to plan my work week - I drive around a lot. But I cannot because they may release her, might want her to go to rehab - which she doesn’t want. But no one knows. Wait and see. I cannot be with her 24 hrs or I could but it will take some serious sacrifice & scrambling. So I’m really just overwhelmed and I’m so mad that this was, in possibly all aspects, preventable.

My son and I are supposed to take vacation this upcoming Saturday. In all likelihood she will be fine by then but it’s just very stressful, wrapping work up for the week & now managing whatever comes of her situation.

UPDATE: so thankful they admitted her. When I went to pick her up at 5 PM the next day from the hospital, she was much improved and very lively. I was able to sleep at her house. She was moving so much better, much more stable and using her walker. This morning we discussed drinking water upon waking and taking her medications with water versus (decaf) coffee. I did let her know that I had seen a metal decline over the last few months and it could’ve been related to this! She was receptive to that.

Considering it, have you done it? What course of action did you take, if any? Improvements, complaints, side effects?

I’m F48 and ha, I guess struggling, like everyone. But it’s really around work/career and needing to do something completely different. I think my sales career/job task have fed my undiagnosed ADHD (or maybe it’s woman brain) but in my late 40s, and I know this is common, I’m just unable to keep doing something I no longer find value in. I’m also less social now and exhausted by excessive extroversion. But what if this is just how it is wah.

I’m just wondering if meds would help quiet the noise for … a minute? SSRIs really helped me for a few years.

I’m just SO TIRED of this conversation about work w my companion + friends. I’m starting to apply but I’m still needing to get through the day to day until something new comes along, which could take months. And I def want a right fit in my next role, so extra patience required.

48 year old, I’m a few months out from 4 years AF. I’m 3 years out from a divorce. I’ve been in outside sales roles for the last 14 years. Post Covid, the nature is fewer after hours events or partying. That could also be due to me not participating in happy hours anymore by choice. I can socialize fine with people drinking, but I really have to find a reason to be there. I just like people less now 😆.

Anyway, after seven months at a new job, I’m finding myself in the position I was in my last role. I think it really comes down to the socialization part of the job or how much I have to put myself out there in sales and I don’t think I have it in me anymore. I think alcohol was a huge coping mechanism for me. The cocktail or cold beverage being the reward at the end of the day. I just don’t care to monetize my personality anymore.

Over the last few days, I’ve really been analyzing what I enjoy doing, and I like tasks and completing them. So the drive around, lose nature of my current role is just grading in me. (Also, my mgr is volatile and a poor communicator but that’s another post.)

On paper, this job isn’t bad and I am allowed a lot of freedom. However, now that I’m actually doing the work, I don’t see myself with this company long term so the effort expenditure isn’t appealing to me. I know sales is a grind, I might just be at the end of my road with it. I don’t know why I’m having such a hard time accepting it.

Recent realization, as I see more orders coming in at my new/green territory. Residential building industry, started this job seven months ago. We offer “a lot of product options.” PE owned. I’m seeing now it’s 3 different companies. Different customer service teams, different logistics, different ordering process different websites. Customer service, in any category, can handle very little when a customer reaches out, the rep has to touch a lot.

There are a lot of very senior reps, 10+ years here. I looked at our team May sales results today and many of those Top Dawgs are only selling one product.

This might just be the start of the pep talk w myself about looking elsewhere. I haven’t loved it since month 1. Manager is a tool, non existent or diseased culture, bare bones marketing effort. I want the freedom and independence to be enough but it’s just not. The end.

6 months at the new job, selling residential commodity building supplies, essentially B2B2C

Low existing customer base. I’ve spent the last six months getting up to speed with all of our administrative requirements and working with our existing customers to get them buying again.

We have a recent directive of 25 in person visits per week logged to salesforce. And it has been stressed to me that cold calling in my area needs to be a priority. I’m ready to execute that, but the old-school method of driving around does not work in my metropolitan area. Between two days I visited 15 accounts and probably only spoke with three people IRL. The rest were unmanned offices, wrong addresses, etc.

I think I need to approach this from the aspect of an inside sales person, and make the PHONE calls and connections, and from there set up appointments.

This feels like the right thing to do, even though it is absolutely not what management would consider productive.

Thoughts? Help?

Also, our marketing team only sends informational emails. There’s no lead nurturing, trickle or otherwise pizzazz to spark interest.

I know I need to get out!! LOL/sigh but I’m working on my next steps and they are not in place yet. I need my 9-5 to be more autopilot while I’m doing that than start a completely new job.