24F Why do some people who cheat still find loving, committed partners?
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I've been thinking about something that genuinely confuses me, and I'd like to hear different perspectives.
I've mostly had female friends throughout my life, so I've seen many relationships from their side. I also had more than one relationship myself. In every relationship, I was loyal and genuinely wanted love and commitment, but none of my partners gave me a real commitment.
What confuses me is what I've observed in some of my friends' relationships.
One of my close female friends has been with her boyfriend for about four years. During the first year of their relationship, she physically cheated on him. He never found out. Despite that, he has always loved her, stayed committed, and treated her well.
Now, after four years, she wants to break up simply because she's "bored." On top of that, she's already talking to another guy and sexting with him while still in the relationship. At first, I encouraged her to think carefully because her boyfriend genuinely loves her. But after seeing this repeated pattern of cheating and emotional involvement with someone else, I honestly feel it's better if she ends the relationship. Her boyfriend deserves someone who truly loves and respects him.
What leaves me wondering is this: why does it sometimes seem like people who cheat or betray their partners still end up finding loving, committed partners, while people who stay loyal struggle to find someone who genuinely commits to them?
I'm not trying to judge anyone. I'm just trying to understand if others have noticed something similar or if there's another way to look at this.