Ex is making adult content with his new GF
Throwaway because too many people know me on my main. Coming here for advice because I’m a progressive mom and feel very complicated about this situation.
My ex husband and I have been divorced for going on 3 years. In that time he’s introduced our kids (8,6,4) to multiple partners - at least four that I know of. He and his new gf have been together since the spring, the kids first mentioned her in March I think. Genuinely I do not care about his relationships. I do care about my kids and of course look these women up on social or whatever.
Upon doing a very basic search I found new gf’s social accounts and her Reddit. To my immediate dismay I found out she and my ex are making very very adult content together. The content is clearly being made at my ex’s place. I told a friend who dug further (bc I didn’t want to see that shit) and the content includes a lot of intense kink/fetish stuff (impact, incest, CNC).
I am so sex positive. No shame in SW or making adult content here. No kink shaming here. I especially support women doing whatever feels right with their own bodies. And I genuinely don’t care my ex is doing this in his free time. Live your life dude.
I am concerned that this is content very clearly being made at my ex’s place. It’s also not hard to find. It is freely available on Reddit. Maybe they lock everything down when the kids are there but it doesn’t seem like it. This is GFs full time job.
I have receipts and have told my lawyer. My ex is extremely high conflict. How do I even begin to address my concerns with him?
Thanks for reading and for any advice 😅