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I (16F) have a close friend, who I’ll call A (16F). A also has a best friend, S (15M). They’ve been best friends since A was 14, so obviously they’re much closer than A and I are.

A has a pretty serious heart condition and was in hospital for quite a while because of it. When she came back, she had a meeting with the school, and eventually it was decided that she would be homeschooled because of her condition.
A is also pretty particular about who she’s friends with. She’s had issues with people not respecting her boundaries, so she’s very careful about who she trusts.

Me, A and S are all in the same English class. There are three girls in the class who A has had issues with, and we all know they talk behind her back. I’m not friends with these girls and don’t really talk to them.
S, however, talks to them. He says that because he’s friends with one of them, he has to talk to all three. A doesn’t actually care that S talks to people she doesn’t like, and neither do I. That’s not the issue.
The issue is that before those girls even came into class, I specifically told S that if anyone asked where A was, not to tell them she was being homeschooled. I wasn’t telling him to lie or anything dramatic , just say she was away or that he didn’t know.

Well, one of those girls asked S where A was.
And S literally told her that A was being homeschooled. Apparently, he then told pretty much everyone else who asked too.

I found out and obviously told A because I felt like she had a right to know that people were being told about something personal involving her.

Later, I got home and S texted me. We ended up arguing back and forth about the whole situation. At one point he started coming at me about my makeup, which had absolutely nothing to do with the argument. I made a comment about his weight in response, which I know wasn’t exactly mature, but it shut the argument down. I also told him that if I tell A what happened at school and he ends up looking like the bad guy, that’s not because I’m trying to make him look bad. It’s because of the things he actually did.

Now I’m pretty sure he’s going to tell almost everyone in our class about the argument.
Honestly, I don’t really care anymore.

But now I’m wondering if I was actually wrong for telling A what he said. I wasn’t trying to start drama or get A angry at him. I just thought she deserved to know that S was telling people about her situation after I’d specifically asked him not to.

So, AITA?

I have a close friend let’s call her M. M is the type of friend who’s a very honest person but in a brutal way and if you get her mad/upset about something she’ll have a really bad attitude towards you . We’re both in the same Soccer team (School sport) we have our games every Wednesday so to be able to play your attendance needs to 80% . So if you miss more than 5 classes in a week from every Wednesday to the following Wednesday then you aren’t allowed to play the following week . Now 2 weeks ago I got a infection/allergic reaction on the top of my eye and it was really itchy so my mom ended up taking me to the hospital and this was on a school day on the Tuesday and on the Wednesday I couldn’t attend school because my eye hadn’t gotten any better . At 12pm M demands I come to school and then I let her know I couldn’t due to my eye situation . Then in our soccer group chat she calls me out and says quote “ She’s sick or whatever “ and then I replied and explained my situation and M replies bullshit then 20 minutes later I get a long paragraph from her . Now the reason why I wasn’t able to tell her why I wasn’t coming to play on Wednesday was because it completely slipped out of my mind that I had a soccer game , because I was baby sitting a 5 month old while my mom was at work , (Note my little brother attends day care but couldn’t go on the Wednesday because he was sick) while also napping in between so going on my phone was definitely not a option because I needed as much sleep due to my eye & considering what my doctor said also because my head hurt pretty bad.

This is what M texted me:
You. You complain about everyone else not being able to communicate properly and you can’t even sort your shit out 😂 You’re in the group chat with a working phone so you should’ve seen the messages about us having a team for today’s game, and I’m sure that you know the struggle of us trying to get players to come, and you couldn’t even be considerate and let the group chat, let alone me know ?!?

Me: I js said my eye is swollen and itchy , your response was “ bullshit “ , even if i did say why im unable to attend in the group chat you’d say im lying or something , & i didnt see the text cause im babysitting , & it’s not my fault if the team is low on players & even if i came today I wouldn’t be to play cause i was away yesterday .

I also sent her a photo of my eye which you can clearly see the allergic reaction in , then she didn’t reply to me. I’m going to school tomorrow and want to know do I apologise to her or do I just leave it as it is and let her approach me therefore aita for not going to school on Wednesday?

Me, Codie and Melissa planned to go to the mall. My brother dropped us off near the train station , we were about to cross , when we realised the pedestrian lights weren’t working. We waited for a bit, but nothing was happening. There was a car waiting and it was FULLY STOPPED, so we decided to cross.
I’m literally almost at the other side when Melissa suddenly GRABS ME BY MY QUARTER ZIP AND DRAGS ME forward mind you I was going there anyway .
I pushed her off me and said, “Let go of me. Don’t drag me like that.” She started giving me attitude, and I was like, “THAT’S A CROSSING. The cars will wait bro.”

I told her again not to drag me like that, and she goes:
“Or what?”

At that point I was actually annoyed because why are you physically dragging me by my clothes instead of just telling me to stop?
Anyway, we eventually caught the train. I was sitting by myself while Codie and Melissa were sitting on the other side. They basically wouldn’t talk to me, so I was like, alright then.
I decided I’d just get off at our destination and either get my brother to pick me up or catch the train back home.
So we get to our destination, I get off, buy another ticket and literally hop back on the train to go home.
Then they message/ask me, “Where you going?”
I ignored them and left.
I haven’t really spoken to them since.
BUT THEN Melissa’s mum texted me saying she’s going to make me brownies to make it up to me 😭😭
Now I’m sitting here wondering if I overreacted.
I understand Melissa might have been trying to stop me from getting hit because the pedestrian lights weren’t working, but I genuinely didn’t like being grabbed and dragged by my quarter zip, especially when I was already almost across and the car had stopped.
So Reddit… AITA for reacting like that and leaving instead of talking to them?