Is there such a thing as “fur death”? Asking as a 30yo who fell out of the fandom
I’m a 30yo gay fur in Croatia and I haven’t really been active since my mid-20s. These days the only furry stuff that reaches me is the pop furs on IG, the muscle ones with the big followings, and whenever I scroll through chats and groups I just feel out of step with all of it.
The fandom used to be the one place where being different was fine. That was the whole point, and I got accepted for it. Now I look at the younger furs and I can’t tell if I’ve aged out or if I’m just the guy who’d show up and accidentally make everyone cringe. My local scene feels mostly dead, and what’s left seems to skew really young (or am I wrong about that?).
And the thing is, it’s not like I have a fallback. The gay community here in Croatia was a pretty rough experience for me, honestly less accepting than the furry one ever was, so it’s not as if I drifted off into some warmer place. I just drifted.
So here’s what I keep coming back to: we joke about twink death, but is there a fur death too? And if there is, what does that make me, a gray fur?
Anyone else hit this in their 30s? Did you find a way back in, or a different corner of the fandom that actually fit?