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I think this type is in the middle of true and false because I see a lot of tiktok post about people claiming to spend 0 $$ and then spend a lot in the dealer den so it not that this stereotype is true it’s more of a depending on the person‘s background and what they do outside of furry stuff and those post about the dealer den mostly show how a lot of people in the fandom work extremely hard to enjoy this fandom or just really suck at money management

I just wanted to point out that people tend to see furries looking at e6 and assume animal=zoo. Now, to me, this just boils down to if the specific anthropomorphic animal is more human than animal or vice versa. Take for example, something like Looney Tunes is more human while My Little Pony (not the Equestria Girls) is more animal.

Hello,

Please keep in mind this is just my personal experience, and I don't want this to be a negative post, im genuinely looking for advice on how I could improve my experience or people with similar experiences :3

I'm 24yo, been lurking the fandom since I was a teen.

In the last 3 years I've decided to finally jump in, made a fursona, started going to events in my country and abroad, fursuited, even helped to organise some smaller cons. Basically I tried a little bit of everything the fandom has to offer.

I'm a pretty extroverted person, outside of the fandom I go to clubs/discos pretty often and have a lot of "normie" hobbies, I can say I'm quite the party animal.

What I've started noticing the more I go to cons, is this pattern where I meet someone either by myself or thanks to some other friends, we hang out at the con, maybe get a little intimate (don't look at me like that, it happens sometimes!) and for the whole convention it's all good and fun, then when the event ends nobody tries to keep in touch.

I do my best to text the people I've met a few days after the con to send pictures I've taken of us and thank them for the fun we had as a way to be polite and friendly, but nobody seems to do the same thing ever, literally I've never received it first.

Then I go to the next event, meet the same people, we have fun, and the same happens once the event is over.

I've had people come to my room to talk about some deep personal mental health issues for a couple of hours, then don't text me when they're visiting the city I live in, I've had people wanting to get intimate with me, having deep talks before and after the fact, and then putting in 0 effort to organise or declining last minute a hangout that was organised a week before, I've had a bunch of singular people I've met organise multiple hangouts and never consider inviting me, even if during cons they keep wanting to organise parties and whatnot.

I'm not sure if this is more of a general thing with people or a personal issue, I feel like cons are a great way to meet people, but what's the point of making friends you'll only see a few days a year even if they live 1-2 hours away from you, personally it just discourages me from even trying to make new connections.

Don't get me wrong, I've made a few (3) actual deep friendships through the fandom, but I feel like the majority of people I've met either lack the skills or don't want to put any effort into maintaining friendships.

Personally speaking, I went from "omg I can meet so many people and make so many friends" to what I just described happening so often that I kinda lost my drive for events. These type of "occasional" friendship hurt me mentally because I feel the need of having a real connection with people

Anyone else had a similar experience?

o I’m a protgen and love the furry community and half of my friends are furry but my parents hate furry and have stated they would send me to a camp if I am one of them I can’t keep hiding this forever and right now I’m struggling mentally and just can’t deal with this what should I do should I tell them hide it I might just quit the furry community all together to make them happy some background is male 18 entering college commuting and financial relent on my parents

Well hello, I'm Kayle. A Tree Dragon Furry from The Seattle area, there is something that confuses me. I've been working a job for 8/9 months now, an internship of sorts. All the way back in February right before I got the job my Dad told me something ( he is very accepting of who I am ) he told me that In a Job environment I need to hide the fact I'm a furry, now I don't feel any ill towards what he said about that. I'm confused because I can openly say I have a Boyfriend and talk about him, and not a single coworker or my councilors ever batted an eye. It's not like I flaunt being gay or being furry in public, I'm just scared because I say I go to these Conventions and I have to lie by saying I'm going to a "ComiCon" or something, it's confusing to me how a company can fire you for having a hobby because your coworkers "find dirt" on you through that. I hope this kind of post is allowed here, I just need some advice on how I should go about this. Just to be clear I don't feel ill towards anything, I'm just genuinely curious.

Edit: thank you all who have commented to Educate me about this. All very good info :) this definitely helps with my anxieties about this kind of thing.

Hi,

I have a tween in my life (being vague here) who would benefit from some YA style books about anthropomorphic animals. Tween would like some romance in the books, some 'fade to black' scenes are fine. I'm trying to support said tween (with parental permission).

Any help is appreciated!

Thank you

I am a nsfw artist with no other artist friends. But i like the thought of drawing horny stuff with someone and sharing all these naughty art ideas.

I always see other big nsfw artists drawing for each other and interacting with each others oc's. But i am never sure if they do that on a regular and are friends or they just do it for work.

And lastly, would this kinda stuff be concidered flirting and even cheating or is that a casual platonic friendship thing and not weird at all as nsfw artists?

Hi! My name is Preston, im 17 and a hugeeeee nerd with books and space. (I could yap allllll day about these! >\_< )I have recently really gotten into writing as a hobby. I was wondering if there are any fellow furry friends who would want to be friends with me and talk about these things? :3

Like what do they mean? Who are they? What connection do they have to you?

I can go first. My fursona represents younger me. When I was somewhere 5-9 years old. To me that is the best time in my life and I time I constantly day dream about. My life got quite dark when I was 10 and stayed like that until I turned 16, then I got hit with adult responsibilities that just made me wish I was a kid again.

My fursona wasn’t always what it is now, he started out as just me also wanting a fursona and it later developed into what he is now.

Hey everyone, I apologize if this seems like a ridiculous question but how do you pick out your fursona species. I’ve admired the furry community for a few years but never knew how to properly bite the bullet so to speak on what I would want to go with personally. It may just be choice paralysis or something dumb like that but I’d still greatly appreciate some input if possible.

So I wanted to make this post because I just wanted to get some opinions.

Some context, I’m a 36 gay man that never really felt like I could ever be part of the LGBTQ community even though I’ve been out since I was 15. I’ve gamed all of my life; always had an affinity for the furry characters in games starting with Red XIII in FF7 as a kid. Later on I discovered cat boys in final fantasy xi then again in final fantasy xiv. I’ve felt like I connected with that on a different level than, “oh he’s just cute”.

Fast forward to recently. I’ve decided to take the plunge into the furry community. I have a fursona with commissioned art that I love to death.

I have attempted to use BARQ and have only made a few connections. As I look through social media, the profiles on BARQ, YouTube videos at cons, I keep thinking, “Am I too late to find community here?”

Maybe Tennessee is just not a great place for furries?

I’m just tired of feeling different and alone. I thought that I might find my place here but now I feel like I’m too old.

Is there hope? Is there an age limit to finding a community within the fandom? Or should I just keep this furry side of me to myself… not that I want to do that.

I just want big furry family 😭😭😭

You can find me on BARQ: @AriTheFox

I can also send over my telegram or discord if anyone wants to be friends with this fox or just continue the discussion off of here :3

(I’m not interested in 2000000 member discord servers or conventions that cost $456899 to attend for the weekend, my interest lies in being in a server of a small amount of people that make niche content in the fandom and i want to know what obscure communities and genres are out there, for example furry gardeners or pony hypnosis literature or something like that)

I have been in a creative rut for a long time due to gender stuff and finding my place in the world but i want to get back into the fandom and have some sort of creative portfolio without nuking this account. I tried the transformation and inflation parts of the fandom but they didn’t really click with me so i am looking for other creative niches in the fandom i can get into as i start anew. I draw but i can also write too.

I make stickers for my friends, family and support group. My friend has a kid whom is a barely teen. I am an adult. However I want to make stickers showing support. I am most likely a lite furry as I wouldn't mind having animal ears or tails, but the fur suit scares me for temperature reasons and masks because of trauma. So while I do give tips and hints on how to make them, I am not that good at being supportive over masks. So I thought I can find some furry support stickers out there for the kid to show off their pride. I however have no idea where to find any furry art that isn't rule 34. I have no idea what kind of furry the kid is since they are ping ponging through a few fursonas and doesn't have one that calls out to them fully yet. So any idea or guidance would be great.

Does anyone else have oc's or their fursona that are too personal to share or let anyone else draw nsfw art of?

Im an nsfw artist and i got an oc that also acts as my fursona. And i love drawing nsfw art of them but somehow i feel very shy (?) sharing those or let anyone else interact in a sexual way with that oc.

I have never felt that way about any of my other oc's before and i wanna ask if anyone had that same problem and has some insight why that is and how they handle it.

Because i want to share art of my oc and let people interact with my fursona but i also want to keep him safe at the same time D:

Ive noticed lately an abundance of replies to a variety of discussions as topics answered or replied to with the phrase "Furry is just a hobby" or something of the like. Ive always found that answer/response to things feeling lacking or downplaying what this community is, at least to me. When i think of a hobby, its usually a bit more focused on a specific thing external to us. Think sports, activities, collectors, etc. On the flip side, when i think of a hobby, I dont think of broader more internally assosciated ideas like community, identity or culture like I do with the fandom.

I understand that furry is also, kind of what you make it, so for many maybe thats all it is for them? Solely just a matter of liking this specific art and thats it? Maybe its simply a matter of semantics where we use the word hobby differently? Id like to posit that we are and should see ourselves as more than that and instead focus on ideas like community or culture.

Speaking from my own experience, the vast majority of my friends even in real life are all a part of the fandom. Same goes for those friends social circles. I cant seem to imagine being in a relationship outside the fandom (happily married to my husband also in the fandom) and it seems to be the case for most everyone i know on that front as well, online or offline. From my view, our social circles largely exist revolving around the fandom to a higher degree than a simple hobby.

Our community, for a lot of people, also ties deeply in with identity. For a lot of us, our fursonas feel deeper than just some cute character we whipped up for fun. Its part of how we see ourself and I believe the heavy involvement on us getting these characters made by people, especially in more NSFW situations substantiates this idea. Id even have to say, to me, NSFW parts dont feel like they fall neatly inside just being a hobby. Associating with themes on identity, we can also assosciate this with the heavy presence of therian and other kin individuals. I can only assume that for those folk, hobby doesnt feel quite right either. I think this also helps to explain why we see so many furs feel an urge to "come out".

To wrap it up back around, I think when we refer to the community as just a hobby, were talking one level down from what it truly is. There are for sure hobbies within the fandom, like art, suit making, dance, etc. Maybe its time for us to be a bit broader in how we communicate our view of what the fandom actually is? Id love to hear other peoples thoughts around this, maybe im just a bit goofy on this one. Are these valid criticisms of the hobby framing?

Update: I really didnt think id get this many thoughtful replies on my late night reflection, but i appreciate every one of you sharing your view of the fandom. I wish I had time to reply to each one of these with a well thought out response, I hardly have time to read through all of em! I hope that whatever your stance is, you can take a minute to take a peek into how other furs view our weird little community of misfits and monsters.

Views on RP
I’m just curious on how others see it.
Would you allow your partner to text sexually RP with others while being with you in the Furry community?
Or do you see it as a simple no?
Or open to the idea?
So we both have very similar sexual fantasies, while he likes chatting to other people to want to maybe explore, I find it really difficult to do so.
I struggle.
I am 50/50 at the moment in how I feel about it because I’m quite a needy partner and I wanna be shown affection a lot, my love language is touch and cute messages or comments ect ect and the thought of sharing is both exciting but also makes me feel i don’t know kinda sad but not…its hard to explain in how i feel about it.
So I would like people’s views on it and how they see it….
Especially those who are Furries and in relationships…

I noticed, today is Vore Day.

Looking through the timeline, you know since things are being shared. I noticed, a lot of the art is 'fatal'. Like... if you think about it, it's basically snuff. I don't REALLY want to judge, however damn a lot of the characters in them are either non-consenting or just basically a mass suicide. One messed me up the most, where this guy hooks up with this big dude. But he realized too late that the dude was a serial devourer... or this case basically a serial killer. And after he was forced into being devoured, the next panel is his phone on the ground and his mom is trying to call him.

Like what the fuck, it's surprisingly common too. It surprised me that a lot of furries that I did not expect would like and repost those.

There's obviously things that are cringe, weird or just gross right? But that circle just makes me feel like, "Damn I don't know if that furry is mentally stable."

It probably has to do something with power dynamics, taboo and even suicidal tendencies (Being the victim).

But again that's just the usual discourse around the fandom. I do appreciate the skill of the drawing.

Though now to think of it. that one person I knew who was suicidal loved posting fatal vore. When he got therapy, he posted much less of it. He eventually just stopped all together. For me, I guess I have a legit aversion to wanton death because my whole life I lost family and friends to negligent accidents and murders.

What's your take on fatal vore and it's popularity in the community?

Hey.

A few words about me.

So, I have turned 30 a little while ago and damn, time flies. I don't feel like and old guy, at all so please don't just reply to me instantly that I am old and that I should leave the community or whatever... (trust me, I heard this many times before lmao, so I am just making sure). People use to fool around and keep telling me how old I am and that I am supposed to have a family already and a big villa and wife and a dog and paying off huge debt etc. I have been part of the furry community on/off for over 15 years so far and I have dated several people in the past from the community also. This community was always a huge part of my life but not in the cringe way. I did stand my ground since I have joined that I will not become one of the people that are just randomly howling at cons or meetups etc. I just refuse to plaster my hobby all over my backpack and keep shoving it into everyone's faces on every platform and social media... I hope you get me.

Sadly, my last relationship was a huge pain on both sides and it ended up so bad I just vanished from the community completely because I refuse to run into the same person every single day. I had to leave several discord servers (there is a terrible hierarchy and admins are mostly power tripping on everyone) and I barely use telegram anymore, I do only text one or two friends I have there because there is basically the same issue in groups as on discord.

First of all, take everything with a grain of salt...

I have attended many conventions and little meetups in my city but lately I feel a left out and it's really hard to find connections with people from the community again.

The main aspect I wanted to talk about is dating overall and how difficult it actually is for someone who is genuinely straight male in the community.

I have tried many dating apps. Those which are for Furries exlusively or just genuine dating apps (like those ones everyone knows very well.. can't really name them all but trust me, I have tried 5 or 6 major ones).

Yes, I know dating apps are basically a scam on lonely people like myself, trying to find genuine relationships in this world. But, how am I supposed to start talking to someone again? I know that this is a wild question to ask on Reddit, but man, I really feel like I am always bothering someone.

Everyone is so important. I can't reach out to artists because that's rude. I can't randomly reach out to people I don't know on discord, because that's weird. I can't really start chatting with people online because we don't share "mutuals" (a girl from a dating app literally refused to talk to me because we don't have mutuals or whatever, I really don't know what that is and I only wanted to chat or play Stardew Valley together).

For me personally, I would love to start dating a cis girl from the furry community again. This whole thing is a really big part of my life and I just don't really wanna date someone who will only "tolerate" my hobby or "respect it" or whatever. I wanna share it. Spend quality time together and go to conventions, meetups, be creative and do stuff together like drawing or crafting fursuit parts etc. I just really enjoy that in two people because it's fun thing to do and I feel like I am seen and heard by my partner and that we share this core hobby together. It means a lot.

The thing is, that local conventions are not really packed with girls (this whole community is not really balanced when it comes to genders and I know that for a long time), but I see content online from time to time where genuine fursuit m+f couples exist and to be honest, I am extremely jealous of those people because they are living something I thrive for for years now... I don't actually think it's that rare but every time I had a little chance to get to know someone from the community after many many months, it just vanished into thin air for no reason.

I ran into one problem. Most girls are taken (and they proudly show it everywhere, which I understand). There are so few of them that it's like playing Minecraft on hardcore difficulty with 0.5 heart left.

Dating nowadays is bad. I have also went to speed dating in person. Many people and many friends and ex partners always told me that I am not an ugly person. I have struggled with seeing myself handsome and I have always stayed humble. I have started going to the gym, gained muscles etc. I take care of myself more than bare minimum. I don't do drugs, I don't do sketchy stuff... Basically a normal guy with this kind of a hobby.

Dating outside of the furry community also didn't work. I have tried it also. Getting to know someone in person also doesn't work. Girls always tell me that they are in a relationship already and that they are flattered. Online basically the same thing. I don't even care if "my" person is outside of my country. I don't mind travelling over 500 miles away if I will spend time with love of my life and some day we will move in together.

Why are people making this whole thing so hard? You cannot really send a direct message, because that's creepy. You need to have mutuals, you need to do this and that... Like there seem to be thousands of checkboxes I need to have checked before I am even allowed to get to know someone. It's unreal to check all of those checkboxes. Do artists only date another artists? Do fursuiters date only other fursuiters? How do you even get to know someone? Exclusively on conventions? Or are you forcing yourself into someone dm's? Are you playing the "long game" while one girl that is still in a relationship with someone that you are her good friend until their relationship has some sudden problems so you are the shoulder to cry on?

I need to clarify that, I am fine by living alone. I don't really care that much. Lately this idea of dating someone from the community just crossed my mind and whenever I wanted to join or be part of it again, it felt much different than years ago. People are different on many levels. If you attend any meetups, there are the typical friend groups hanging out with different friend groups they know from online chatrooms but if you wanna join in, you feel like someone who doesn't belong AT ALL because you don't know anything about anyone and everything feels like a big internal joke you won't understand because you are not part of the friend group. And that same thing applies to online social media.

I genuinely don't know, but if there is anyone who can genuinely share an idea how could I approach this, let me know in the replies. I will appreciate it a lot.

Thanks for reading my rant and have a nice day / night everyone.

Working on an idea for an adult animated sitcom it’s about a family who are all members of the furry community in milwaukee the mom and dad own a string of department stores for furries by furries that sell premade suits,fabric,heads,and other accessories the kids are teenage twins I want the girl to be rebellious any ideas for what would be rebellious in the community?