r/furrydiscuss

Hello! I saw a decently sized content creator tease that they were buying a fursuit. In the past I have only ever seen them diss furries in the form of replying to comments. On of his comments read, “it's sad (i'm not a furry, nor do i support them) but these costumes would be SO cool if it didn't come with the stigma/what it means to be a furry. Like, that is such a cute little character but i cannot agree with the actions held by furries. 😬”

Is it wrong to feel a little weirded out by this? I was sort of happy to see him be more accepting of himself (if he does in fact identify as being a furry), but he has comments even to this day being passive aggression to people who think he’s a furry.

I’m not Very open about being furry but my attitude is very “whatever” about it: basically I won’t deny it if I’m asked and I may casually drop that fact in conversation, and while I know that there’s misconceptions (some pretty nasty) I just think of it as their problem. Basically I really don’t care.

But one of my irl fur friends is the complete opposite, he’s very paranoid and closed off about anyone knowing, fearing how it may affect his reputation etc, he’s even hesitant about discussing furry topics in public, whereas I’m like “most people don’t know what FurAffinity is and if they do and have a problem with it I don’t care” but even my parents, who are tolerant about this hobby, think my friend’s totally right about being careful because people might get the wrong assumption, word may spread fast and all the sudden people near that social group don’t want to date me, even though my mindset is if they don’t like that part of me they’re not worth my time.

They insist that some things like that I should keep to myself, but they think being a furry is a kink (there’s def sexual aspects but it’s not the whole picture) and also I don’t have “Furry” on my business card or is the first thing I say to people I just met, but I’m also not hiding it at all costs like it’s a shameful secret because I’m just not ashamed by it.

Idk I’ve experienced my fair share of bullying, harassment and trauma growing up so I’ve learned to not care about all this, should I be rethinking my nonchalant behaviour?

Insane title but thats the only way to describe this..

about 7 months ago i got added into the friends gc on discord, i met this one guy, we started talking and all, then talking slowly turned into lewd texting, then we shared pics and stuff, and he was acting so lovey dovey to me.

He was planning a europe tour where he would visit lots of his friends around europe, including me.

But a week before that trip happened i get a message from him, and in short he sent a couple of pictures from furry meetup in stockholm, between those pictures were a pic of him in his room hugging some random guy. I asked him about it and he proudly ranted to me how hes casually having sex a couple times a week with multiple different "friends with benefits", aswell as teasing me that i still never had intercourse, while he had around 10 bodies.

I went full bipolar psycho mode, freaked out and blocked him everywhere, of course it wasn't without intense arguing and name calling. After a while he dmed me on alt and i called him a "std zombie".

A month ago we found eachother texting in spotify dms, basically admitting that what we did and said was wrong to eachother, that it wont happen again. IN SHORT: we circled back from talking to lovey dovey messages about "wifing me up", pic sharing

Couple days ago new month starts, time for the monthly Stockholm furry meetup, and i get another picture of him in his room laying on TOP of somebody with a text "brought this bee home".

I wished him good night and before i could turn off my phone he texts "sorry i was busy with some cutie" and starts replying to the stuff i sent over the day. I explicitly told him to stfu and threw my phone away from myself.

Im so lost

That sounds like a stupid complaint, but hear me out.

I'm not complaining about going to a Chinese restaurant and there being Chinese food, more so about going to a Chinese restaurant and there only being egg foo yong, just the one dish. I try to bring up other stuff, but both parties of conversation loop back to furry topics. This is both my fault, but also for trying to fulfill expectations of what should be brought up, and I wonder if that's happening on the other end too.

I'm worried I'm making furry friends instead of friends that are furries, and I worry the same for them. When I bring up programming to programmer friends, it's like trivia that they happen to have elite ball knowledge about.

Hello, I have a genuine question and hope this a good place to get answers, if not I would also loved to be directed to the correct thread. I was wondering if within furry on furry relationships both monogamous and polyamorous whether the species of the fursona matters in relationship dynamics. Like does a larger polycule care to create an ecosystem with a certain level of biodiversity? Or are like like/similar species preferred. Let me know! Thanks!

I’m posting this here in this sub as I feel the furry fandom is one of the very few places I felt any sense of comfort despite the shame and embarrassment and rigid thinking and ocd I’ve had about being one.

ever since I was in my teens I knew that the crushes i had on girls were aesthetic and wanting to be like them rather than any desire for intimacy. once I got into college at 19 I noticed that i didn’t really feel like the straight guys and that my attraction towards women was very fickle and really meh. fast forward to when I turned 21 and I discovered I was attracted to guys after spending some time in yaoi fujoshi spaces on deviantart. I’ve been in the furry fandom since I was 16 and was always drawn to it for some reason I couldn’t understand. over the past three years I’ve had some gender stuff going on but I’m working through it and feel that I may not be trans after all and just a guy. particularly the trans stuff was due to the fact that I would be a straight girl and not a gay guy. not to mention all the hornyposting and crush/waifu culture men have online and talk about girls irl I just can’t understand or relate to at all, but I do know America from hetalia is boyfriend material.

I never kissed or really fell in love with any girl or guy but I do recall having a crush on a guy at work I saw a couple of years ago that I didn’t have the opportunity to chat with plus another cute guy that I saw in my current job with those frilly jeans. My taste in guys is a slightly chubby guy with wavy hair, glasses, light facial hair, and a nerdy personality. I don’t mind his race or whether he is trans or cis.

I’ve always wondered about this.
It’s just a hobby—liking characters that are anthropomorphic animals—so why are furries hated so much?
Why is everyone so nervous about telling their parents or friends, "I'm a furry"?
Is it just that the people around me happen to be kind?

Wondering others answers on this because id probably pick the second

I personally believe theres 2 types of ferals. You can have ferals that can actually talk and communicate with anthros and can hold jobs ect. And then you have ferals which are straight animals. I am only into the ones that are sentiant and can consent ect. I am not into it irl at all. Im just curious on peoples opinions on the matter. I started thinking about it more after i saw people getting upset over the drag'n wash game cause its apparently beastiality, even though the dragon pays for the service and talks and holds a job.