Confused by standards
Im new to all of this so bare with me. Im 33F and I'm happily married to my amazing husband hes 52. We have been together since 2017, got married in 2018 and about 6 months later his mom moved in with us. She lived with us until about 3 months ago. Last year intimacy was basically non existent between my hubs and I, there was a co worker that was always flirting with me and I started flirting back and well of course one thing led to another and well we slept together. Its like the awoke a beast in me that is having the hardest time being satisfied. So I joined a different website and have had major luck finding random hookups until 2.5 months ago I met someone and something about him is different. We have seen each other at least once a week since and every time I see him I crave him more after. I have since stopped getting on the website I was on since meeting him. How do I know if its like a full affair and not just sex? How do I bring this up to him? I can provide more information as needed. Im just so confused