3 weeks porn-free, best attempt in 3+ years, wet dream last night. How should I think about it?
Hi everyone,
I'm in week 3 of my month-long attempt to quit watching pornography/masturbating. I've tried to quit many times over the past 3 years, and this has been the most comfortable and controlled attempt so far, I felt few urges and was able to control what came up. I also noticed the real benefits: increased self-confidence, better focus, and my lifts in the gym have been going up. My plan was to continue this series for much longer than a month.
Then last night, on day 21, I had a wet dream and woke up in the middle of ejaculating.
Logically, I know the facts: I didn't watch pornography, I didn't touch myself, and it was just my body's natural ejaculation because I hadn't ejaculated in weeks. Technically, I didn't break any of my rules. But part of me still thinks this series is "ruined," and I'm worried this feeling will turn into the classic "I've already failed" mentality.
So here are my questions:
When you had wet dreams during your series, how did you frame it mentally?
Did these dreams occur more or less frequently over time?
Do you have any advice on how to silence that irrational "I failed" voice before it actually causes harm?
My main goal is to quit pornography entirely, and that part is fine. I just want to hear how others handled this moment.
Thanks.