u/darry85

Hey all,

I recently downloaded taimi again and I've gotten an influx of straight dudes "liking" me. It didn't happen as much when I had the app before. I don't mess with straight dudes AT ALL. I'm just curious, are they seeing me as a woman or a trans woman? I ask because I pass 100% and don't look feminine at all in my profile pics. So, I don't know if they're confused about which way I'm transitioning? I don't engage with them because either way, I don't want it. Lol It's just strange to me.

I tried to update my old thread but it didn't push the thread to the top. I'm not sure if it actually updated or not so I'm making a new thread.

I did get a toy and more lube. I tried to use the toy inside for the first time post meta but it burned. Like not uncomfortable or tight but an actual burning sensation. I don't know if it's the lube or from the meta. When I use the lube on just my dick due to dryness on the outside it's fine. Any ideas?

Hey guys,

This is pretty long. Just FYI.

I've posted in this sub a few times before. For a bit of a background. I'm a 40 year old trans guy. I'm 14 years on T, post top, hysto and meta. I'm going through a legal divorce from my partner of 14 years. They are NB FAAB.

In the past few months, I've been dipping my toes in dating/hook up apps like Scruff and FEELD. I've always been bi/pansexual but have trouble accepting that. When I first came out, I sought relationships with women and wanted to deny my attraction to men. Even though at that time and since then, I was consuming gay porn. It's been an ongoing struggle because now that I'm single, I want to be the polar opposite and be "gay". I know I have some work to do there.

The point of my post is that I've never been intimate with a man. Trans or cis. I'm freaked out and often chicken out one way or the other if the opportunity presents itself to meet up. I was talking to someone I met on Taimi and we met up a few times but he didn't want to see me anymore once he knew I was still legally married. Which is fine. I don't want to be in a relationship right now anyway because I'm just getting out of one. However, I do want friends/FWB but I feel like I'm overthinking and waiting for the "perfect" opportunity and person. It seems like I always find something wrong or weird about the person I'm talking to and write them off. I know it's no rush and I can be as picky as I want but I do wonder if I'm overthinking it. I've started to talk to other trans guys and am warming up to the idea of T4T because I like the idea of being with someone who has a similar experience. I'm starting to find some guys around my age and stage in transition on FEELD which is nice. What are your guys' thoughts?