u/dazzling_amirah

Yeah you heard it right. and it's not even something new. It was the surah an Nisa verse 34. the "light " beating part. It always rubs me the wrong way , it irks me to my core. It crumbles my faith. I know I shouldn't think about it this much but here we are.

We don't have women's section in our masjid or any of the masjids here. So it were just men. My brother told me about this and it breaks my heart. The imam not only said that but he also explained how it should only be done if everything else fails, you know the drill. Advising, separating beds all that. And he said how it should be done such a way so as to not leave any marks on the skin. The audacity omg. The fact that majority of men think like this and will believe in it even more so now that they got a green signal. I don't care what anyone says but it's things like this that leads to domestic violence at homes. It's justified after all.

Honestly it's laughable that a man in anger while hitting will care not to leave any scar on a woman. My brother who is just 17 must think it's okay even if it's light , done in good way, to just teach her. Why is it that a wife does something wrong she can be "disciplined" but there is nothing equivalent for a man?

I am frustrated. How do you all stay sane amongst this misogyny? Tell me I'm not thinking anything wrong :(

p.s. i asked my cousin about this and I hoped she felt the same. And nope. She justifies it too. It's hitting lightly. I am alone in this.😭