most guys are here are chasing effects.
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female attraction, magnetism and benefits. most of us here are chasing not realizing the whole point of this practice. don't get me wrong I've been there before, I'm no exception but the longer I be on this practice (since 2020 with multiple short and long streaks - max of 8months).
it's about becoming the type of man that does the hard things. the kind of man that can deny himself of instant gratification, keeping his word and building not only trust in Self but real self respect which has no choice but to bleed into other areas of life (relationships, finance, fitness etc.). it all comes down to self concept, "Who Am I?" and "Who Am I Becoming?". its not about being perfect but rather becoming the kind of man that shows up for himself consistently.
just wanted to share my 2 cents, this sub has helped me alot tho after taking multiple breaks from viewing the content here and coming back it's hard not to realise some of the redundancy. chasing benefits, white-knuckling, holding your breath and obsessing over day counts won't get us the life we truly desire. let the effects come as a by product rather than being the main event, I believe that's the mentality that leads to relapses - focusing on the effects rather than the cause.
speaking of cause, one thing I can share which I believe helped a lot is building a strong spiritual foundation (which honestly happens automatically regardless). starting and ending your days in silence, prayer/meditation...I'm not religious myself but I always give thanks to The Most High, call it God, Source or whatever. we gotta get back to basics. take full responsibility for EVERY aspect of our lives.