u/desertdrunk

My 33F brother 24M is diagnosed with shyzotipal personality disorder. He has a terrible sleep schedule, lives with our parents. After school he went to uni, struggled because he slept too much and skipped classes, dropped out in second year. For almost a year now he's been "studying for exams" to get into another uni.

Since school, our parents have woken him up every day, nudged him to study, hired tutors, did everything they could. They did the same for me, and I learned their overprotection made me passive and unmotivated, so I wonder if it's harming him too.

Recently dad found out he's been skipping classes but still leaves the house like he's going. Sleeps all day, awake at night. Doesn't take his meds regularly. If you try to talk about his sleep schedule or studying he shuts down, gives short answers, lots of "I don't know" to things like "how are you going to pass?", "what will you do if you don't?", "what do you want?".

He tried a low payed job and hated it, so in theory he's studying to get a better one — but he isn't studying. We all feel awful because he's clearly struggling. My parents find it impossibly hard to be strict. They can't say "uni or work" or tell him to find his own place, because he's shyzotipal, not ready for adult life, and has no other support system. Even with us he barely opens up.

How do we help him?

My 33F brother 24M is diagnosed with shyzotipal personality disorder. He has a terrible sleep schedule, lives with our parents. After school he went to uni, struggled because he slept too much and skipped classes, dropped out in second year. For almost a year now he's been "studying for exams" to get into another uni.

Since school, our parents have woken him up every day, nudged him to study, hired tutors, did everything they could. They did the same for me, and I learned their overprotection made me passive and unmotivated, so I wonder if it's harming him too.

Recently dad found out he's been skipping classes but still leaves the house like he's going. Sleeps all day, awake at night. Doesn't take his meds regularly. If you try to talk about his sleep schedule or studying he shuts down, gives short answers, lots of "I don't know" to things like "how are you going to pass?", "what will you do if you don't?", "what do you want?".

He tried a low payed job and hated it, so in theory he's studying to get a better one — but he isn't studying. We all feel awful because he's clearly struggling. My parents find it impossibly hard to be strict. They can't say "uni or work" or tell him to find his own place, because he's shyzotipal, not ready for adult life, and has no other support system. Even with us he barely opens up.

How do we help him?