[x-post] Should I call it quits?
TL;DR Exhausted at work with a constantly demoralizing boss, should I call it quits?.
Hello,
I have been working in the US for the last 15 years. I am single, late 30s. About an year and a half ago I accepted a promotion as a senior IC at the place of my work that required me to move to one of the tech hubs under a younger desi manager.
Now ever since I have moved here he has made my life hell. Every single 1:1 meeting is about how I am doing poorly, not meeting expectations, not up to the mark for the role etc. He will put 100 things on my plate including business deliverables and in each 1:1 he will pick up things which didn't go as planned and use that as an opportunity to berate me. If I ask him about it he will say I have just given you a small scope and that too you're unable to handle. He constantly asks for dates for each and every action item, makes me fill reports of progress each week, a 1:1 document containing highlights, lowlights, JIRA tickets including work log of each day - it is exhausting. It just feels like he doesn't want me to be around.
He put me on PIP last year which I was able to clear after talking about some of his antics with my skip. Ever since that time he has promoted everyone else on the team (we are a small team). We have a bunch of vendors who can't code a REST call using AI to save their life. I am given the worst of the bunch and then told that I am not being productive if deliverables are impacted. He cut my bonus and gave me the lowest raise of my career so far and is again suggesting that my performance is not up to the mark.
Meanwhile, others in the team are encouraged all the time, given rewards, promotions etc. He will constantly compare me to juniors and show how much better they are. He never talks about my achievements or team contributions or business deliverables. It is usually the product or business appreciating then he will add onto it saying that the team delivered. The guy who got multiple rewards, promotions basically pair programmed the whole system with me from the scratch yet I wasn't given any appreciation for it. I feel frustrated, angry and exhausted at this point.
I had made a plan to return to India this year independent of this but was hoping to find something internally before I could move. Unfortunately, there seems to be an ongoing hiring freeze within my org. At this point I am starting to wonder should I just quit and go back or is it worth to take in the morale downer for a few more months until I find something in India? Honestly, though I don't know how much I have it in me to take up another high stress job. Everyday we have calls with offshore team either early morning or late evenings and that is besides the day to day work.
Financially speaking, I am in a decent spot for a single person but I do want to find someone and start a family and that's where I am not sure if I have enough. Thankfully, my parents are financially independent and supportive.
Any thoughts/ideas/suggestions? I feel lost and don't feel like seeing my boss's face!