Does anyone else get better at life by playing videogames?

I identify as a gamer. Some might say that I have an addiction to videogames given how many hours a week I play, but I don't think they see what I'm trying to do with videogames.

Videogames allow me to try new ways to live. For example, I used to be terrified of following other people's orders or instructions. Obedience to authority was extremely hard for me because obeying my parents as a kid screwed me up as a young adult, or that's how I interpreted it. But I wanted to change. I couldn't hold a job because I would just not subject myself to authority.

Terraria fixed that. I went in as someone completely new to terraria. I asked a friend who was far more experienced to order me around, and he did that for 5 hours straight. There was a pain in my chest the entire time, from the intense fear, but then it was gone and I was able to follow instructions in real life. I now have a job that I would never have dreamed possible 3 years ago.

I want to know if there are people in here that play videogames with that sort of intent too. People who, for example, try to get good at a videogame and then ask themselves "how can I apply that to my life?"

Surely videogames aren't just unhealthy. I see those posts all the time, about getting rid of game addictions, but it's been a net positive to my life and I wonder if anyone else.

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u/detectivDelta — 24 hours ago
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u/detectivDelta — 1 month ago

Of the people that play chess, I've noticed that we all experience the game in our own distinctive way. That's a good thing. Variety is the spice of life. Chess would be infinitely more boring if we all improved at chess the same way.

Being honest however, this also makes it difficult to write a comprehensive guide to chess. I have found that there are around 25 to 50 (and possibly more) perfectly valid ways to approach the game at any one time. People ask for the optimal way, the most efficient way, but are then scant on detail about who they are. I wish I could point to something and say "this is best for everyone." In truth, the method that will help you most probably depends on your goals, how hard you're willing to work, how creative and resourceful you are, your personality, and your physique (brain + body).

My advice to you is this: If you have the time and energy to experiment and fool around with chess, place your bet on a method. Try a lot of things for a little while until something just clicks. You may feel an incredible surge of motivation and excitement and start winning way more games than you lose.

I don't want to leave this post without giving you more concrete advice, so here's a method that may tickle an attempt out of you: memorize a game of chess you've recently lost until you can see it in the ceiling, just like Beth Harmon from The Queen's Gambit when she got scholar's mated. Play it over and over in your head and try to make sense of the moves.

Chilean GM Mauricio Flores Ríos explains how to memorize a game of chess in this conveniently timestamped youtube video. Give it a try: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PMpj80cIDqk&t=780s

u/detectivDelta — 2 months ago

I feel like I have some very non-conventional advice about how to improve at chess. For example I think some players would greatly benefit from coaching other people for free, even if they're not completely sure-footed about their chess knowledge. I think people are solving puzzles improperly in the vast majority of cases. I believe that memorizing a game of chess is extremely useful, but perhaps for a completely counterintuitive reason.

I've been writing helpful comments on this subreddit for the last 4 months. I have no problem writing high quality comments and enjoy the hell out of it. But somehow when writing a post my perfectionism kicks in and I can't bring myself to post.

Anyone suffer from a similar problem? I really admire people like /u/GABE_EDD who manage to post a full fledged how-to. I would appreciate someone putting themselves in my shoes and giving some advice.

Thanks.

Edit: After plenty of good advice, I went ahead and wrote a post. Please be gentle with me, I'm doing my very best to experiment and improve: https://www.reddit.com/r/chessbeginners/comments/1t13jts/comment/ojdkwqo/

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u/detectivDelta — 2 months ago