AITD for not telling my aunt why my father (her brother) isn't texting back
My father has been no contact with his sisters for a few years. A few month ago one of them died and the other really struggles with it. She told me she wanted her brother back. She knows he is difficult (very sensitive and holds grudges).
I coaxed him into sending her a text, offering help with something/anything. I didn't tell him what to write just suggested offering help as a way to start a conversation (+ he feels better when feeling useful). I thought that would be it. My aunt tends to be good with people from what I know (which isn't a lot, to be fair), so I thought they'd figure it out from there. She answered a few days later because she was shocked - understandable.
She basically asked him to come live in the house of their dead sister to take care of the sisters cat (not exactly the wording but this was what she told him she struggles with). I (internally) lost it. Obviously he wouldn't. He didn't answer at all.
She tells me everytime/sometime (?) when we talk on the phone (not often) that he hasn't written back. I don't want to tell her why - I think it's obvious, I probably wouldn't be (able to be/stay) kind and they are both full grown adults.
AITD for not telling my aunt why my father has not and will not write back?