u/disposablejell

My friend told me today that she met a 45 year old man at the park today while she was reading. He approached her saying something along the lines of “Now that’s the right way to use the day, I was heading to get some drinks at the bar but I think I’ll read a book now instead” I guess they talked a bit and he left then came back with a book. He sat by her for a while and they talked some more. He apparently is a very successful man who just travel from London to ski town (that’s where we are, she’s here on an internship). He’s got condos all over the world blah blah. They talked about work and what they were doing. He asked her how old she was and then said “he’s surprised she seems so much more mature for her age”. She seemed very flattered when she told me that. He apparently doesn’t have a wife or any daughters (maybe if he has daughters it’s could be like a father looking out for someone that reminds them of theirs? But even then.) but no. She told him she doesn’t have very many friends out here and he said he’s very connected and has tons of friends and can introduce her to them. He invited her out to get drinks but she said she had plans but gave him her phone number. He texted her later saying they were watching the World Cup and she could join. I told her it seemed really weird but she said that not everything is what I think it is. She is skeptical of him but she said she wants to hangout with him tomorrow. Like she’s going to reach out to hangout. She said he might even be busy tomorrow who knows. I said he’s definitely not going to be busy tomorrow. I’m honestly terrified for her safety and don’t know what to do. She doesn’t seem to think it’s very weird at all for a 45yr old man to be friends with a 21yr old woman. Like man that age I know don’t want to be platonic friends with a younger person. There’s nothing in common between you two. She said she doesn’t think it’s anything sexual. She won’t listen to what I have to say because “I don’t have any place to talk”. I’m going to try to make sure she’s safe and meeting in a very public space, make sure she has her own ride, and I have her location. I’m really worried about her safety and it’s really bothering me how naive she’s being about it all. What would you do?

Addition context which might change everything; I am her ex 24m. We broke up, she called me the day after and asked if she should “wait for me”. She was going to move back to ski town in a couple weeks where we started our relationship almost a year ago when she was interning here last year. I hooked up with someone during after a week of our break up. Not trying to forget her, just trying to escape the immense sadness I was in. It made me feel even worse and so disgusting. She came over on my birthday and surprised me because she didn’t want me to be alone on my birthday. She ended up going through my phone and found out I hooked up with someone else, and was talking to a couple other girls. She broke up with me again. When she moved back for her internship I helped her move in and have been spending every night with her and basically all the same time that we would have if we were back together. She called me boyfriend today and has been telling me all day how much she loves me and wants to still marry me. She told me the “new friend” stuff today after work when I met up with her. So the “You don’t have a place to say anything” comes from me cheating on her.

I don’t really know what to do. I’m staying at her place tonight but I doubt I’ll be able to sleep. Her being so naive is really turning me off and I’m really really worried about her safety. She’s really smart but it’s shocking that she’s not picking up on the predatory behavior from this man. She could be over looking it to spite me? Am I being insanely hypocritical?

Thank you all in advance.