u/dohesitatetoreachout

*dated aka had sex with. Long read ahead. I tried to condense it as much as possible, but there’s a lot of context to cover.

A
- Nepali. Nepal. Doctor.
- Met on Badoo. We kissed the second day of our meeting(not really a date) and had sex for the first time. My first sex. Ang saket. Hindi nasarapan pero nasiyahan.
- First bf and only one to have met my family. He was a med student who didn’t have enough money for dates and I covered basically everything. I flew to his city every month to visit him after he relocated for his post-grad internship.
- I got a crazy pregnancy scare after a ripped condom accident. Felt alone and panicked as bf had been quiet while I ask him what to do and meds to buy. He was probs scared being an alien med student but bro withdrew from it all. He was literally mum the whole day and I couldn’t contact him. I didn’t know what to do and scoured pharmacies for emergency pills, but ended up with regular contraceptives and popped one pill instead. No proper pregnancy thankfully. It was a legit scare. No sperm won the race. We enjoyed creampies since then and I took BC seriously despite it fucking up with my body, mood, and basically everything.
- Been together for 1 year and x months and he was in a 3-year relationship with someone else who was working abroad. Fuck. (Place is not verified as this was only a scoop from a fellow Pinay who was cheated on with by ex’s roommate - a fellow Nepali, med student).
- PS: We never talked about the pregnancy scare. He ignored it completely and did not help with any of the costs. Then again, he never really contributed to any of our expenses throughout the relationship.
- Blocked, no contact.

B
- Indian. Between India and Singapore. Works in sustainablility industry as an accreditor.
- In Manila for a few days for a work assignment.
- Tried anal for the first time but I got hurt and scared, so I haven’t tried it again since. He had a small tool but he made me squirt. It was my first time experiencing that and man, I felt like I passed out. I heard a high pitched sound from the bliss.
- I met him a second time because I wanted to experience the squirt again hahaha, but it didn’t happen. He was so agressive for a short guy and that scared me. After that, I didn’t feel like seeing him again.
- He messaged me again when he was about to return to Manila, but I didn’t reply. Blocked and no contact.

C
- My first Filipino dude. Works in sales.
- May lore din ako sa Green Residences Taft lol. My first ONS experience.
- I genuinely forgot the name of the guy but I can remember he was short, buff, and he had a BO despite being fresh from the shower.
- Met on Tinder. Immediately agreed to meet defo for a hookup and he booked my motor ride. First time ko makapasok at makipag sex sa condo ng ibang tao and I witnessed how raw and personal someone’s space is. He was so real for not bothering to wash the soiled dishes in his sink.
- Had a long rough sex and I came good. So good I felt sore agad. I didn’t feel horny na after I finished and he kept going and I was already hurting. He wanted to extend more doing whatever to make himself finish. I’m not exaggerating that the sex felt an hour-long and he still hadn’t cum. I told him I want to stop na. He asked for a blowjob so he can finish, but I wasn’t really feeling it anymore. I told him I wanted to leave. He begged me not to. He said he wanted to finish and that it didn’t feel fair to him - and I know that. I felt guilty about it, but I had my post-nut clarity and just wanted out. I stood up and got dressed. Apologized and paid him the Joyride he booked for me.
- I had difficulty figuring out his door knob and lowkey got scared he’d do something bad to me if I couldn’t leave. Thankfully, he got up and helped open the door for me, defeatedly. Thanked him and apologized again.
- Blocked and no contact.

D
- Filipino, pilot
- I discovered Reddit and its subreddits for sad, horny, mix mix people lol. Our convo was going great and it was really wholesome. We agreed to meet just to talk. I was expecting just that too para maiba naman sa previous experiences ko. We agreed on a hotel. Boy, I shouldered the hotel! He insisted to cover half of it but I was full of pride LMAO!
- We were comfy in bed and talked for more than an hour. Until we warmed up and he asked for a hug. I thought to myself, sayang naman… he’s cute, but nothing will happen to us - hug lang mararanasan ko. But boyyy he asked for a kiss and we did more than just that. But boy again, he wasn’t that good. And he became soft while in the middle of the deed… First time ko maranasan yon and I felt really bad, and insecure and thought I might be ugly. Ang weird sa pakiramdam. It got awkward and we decided to go home. Once again, he asked about the hotel bill, and I declined his supposed share.
- We reconnected on Instagram several months after the incident and thought of meeting up, but nothing happened since. We’re probably both still embarrassed about that one night.

E
- Indian. PH-based, works in IT.
- Met him on Bumble and we became fubus. He’s my longest fubu. I’d visit him in his nice condo and I stayed over for many times. We have basic sex - nothing crazy at all. What’s unique though is that it would go on for three rounds max in one night. He was sweet and would make me coffee or chai every morning.
- I was the one who initiated ending our situationship bc I no longer wanted to be in that kind of arrangement and wanted a fresh start. Although he was initially hesitant, he eventually accepted my decision. We had a clean, amicable end. No contact.

F
- Indian. PH-based, works in IT.
- After months of rest, I went on Tinder and matched with him. Really sweet guy and I was smitten. He’s my second longest fubu. The most decent one. I contemplated on changing the status of our somethingship to a real relationship until I found out he’s colleagues with E.
- Nag ingat na dapat ako una pa lang noong nalaman kong same condo building siya with E! F had a nicer unit. I found out about this when I saw a photobooth magnet on the ref with the two of them in one pic! I never told F about this though. We remained solid, but I felt scared to have been linked to two people from the same company, living in the same condo building, who could be friends. I was so scared I might bump into E while I’m with F… or that they would talk about me. Idk. I was irrationally scared even if I had a good run and good end with E.
- F was still sweet to me. He got stuff from me when he traveled to his home country, Sagada, and Coron. With him being unaware of my past, and being so into me, I couldn’t bear the guilt and called off our situationship.
- He’s sent a follow request on my IG twice, and I’ve kept deleting it.
- No contact.

G
- Indian. Based in PH. Entrepreneur. I actually don’t know his exact profession.. has a lot of money but he was kinda sketchy to me lol.
- First time ko sa SOGO lol. I liked him a bit bc first time someone picked me up and dropped me off at my place kahit nakamotor lang. Ok sex - aggressive but I don’t remember cumming. First time I allowed being filmed - that was while I was sucking him. First time I did not enjoy giving a blowjob. His cum tasted salty and bitter to me.
- He apparently enjoyed our shenanigans and made grand plans where we’d go on a staycation somewhere in Antipolo. We met again and he was turned off the second time we met because I kept complaining the room was hot and I think it killed his mood. Didn’t talk after that. No Antipolo happened.
- No contact.

H
- Indian, based in PH. You can see… I have a type. Regional executive of a major logistics company. Lawyer.
- Met on Tinder. I thought we’d only meet for a date. Then he suggested going to his hotel. I honestly didn’t want to go in the first place. I wanted a break from my somewhat pattern… but we stll fucked anyway.
- He had a mannerism when he speaks that gave me the ick lol. Major turn off was that he plans to have a gf in Manila who can cook for him and clean his place (he asked me to be a gf- on our first meeting). He also shared his plan to get a car and have it registered under the gf’s name. I felt pressured by his ideas. Moreso, I thought he was actually looking for a maid. I don’t know how to cook lol and I have a job, boy.
- No contact.

I
- Indian-Canadian from San Francisco, USA. Relocated to PH. Software Engineer.
- Met on Tinder. First day of texting, we already agreed to meet that night. Most spontaneous date I had. We went to Dr. Wine - classic! He was really flirty and it was a first to me meeting someone that touchy. I’m not touchy lol lalo siyempre first meeting. I can smell his BO and bad breath! But he touches well and is a good conversationalist that I’m somehow turned on despite the negative olfactory stimulation. He suggested going to his condo for a bottle of wine, and I know what that means. I honestly didn’t want in the first place. Again - I wanted a break from my somewhat pattern… Also, I’m on my period. Nakakahiya! Not a heavy flow, but still. Regardless, we ended up on the bed with full clothes on hahaha. Puro dry humping and kissing. Kissing that felt absolutely good. The longest makeout session of my life. Not exaggerating when I say it went on for an hour. I was already so wet of my own juice mixed with blood too fuck. And told him I could’t hold it any longer. I need to get fucked. And I was fucked. We did it on the dining table haha. Him standing. With a huge mirror on the wall to watch ourselves to. Duguan siya after eh. Had crazy good sex after that - five dates(sex) in total. I discovered through him that I like mild BDSM.
- He had a really huge tool and he knew how to use it well. It also always left me sore. I literally can still feel him inside me a day after the deed. It hurt but it felt so good.
- First time I experiened all-out PDA which made me feral. I loved the holding hands, kisses, and boob-action while we’re out. Siya ang ideal kong maginoong bastos.
- Despite the odor and bad breath behind his gorgeous smile, I liked him for his arrogance and wit. And performance.
- No contact after I found out that he has other girls and I was surprise-trapped into an FFFM action. Absolutely fucking not my thing. I didn’t get to join thank God.

J
- You’ve guessed it right - another Indian. Indian-Canadian too, based in PH. Has a business I actually didn’t understand. Kinda sketchy imo.
- Met on Tinder. Ang pogi niya tbh. Mom’s half Canadian. Not a fan of gym guys, but he is one. He’d send me gym pics lol and I didn’t know what to respond… wanted to tell him to not skip his leg days. He made me wait for an hour on our first meeting, but good thing I waited inside his apartment. His friend had to unlock his door for me lol. ONS. He finished fast and I didn’t cum. Sama ng pakiramdam ko after.
- He kept inviting me over to his place, but I kept putting it off. He’d sometimes send me horny Instagram reels and gym selfies, and I’d respond in a very nonchalant, shut-off way. That went on for three months I guess. I wasn’t keen on replying na and blocked him shortly after that. No contact.

K
- Indian based in UK. Seafarer, on vacation in Manila.
- Met on Tinder. Pogi, tito-looking. I went to his hotel in Poblacion and we had sex first night of his arrival. He kept praising me and said he felt lucky. Idk why he said those. Another date happened and I was supposed to stay in his hotel and just sleep with him. I genuinely had no intention to have sex and he became furious so I let him throw a tantrum. I went home and we “fought” on text. Like?? Bro, parang matagal nang mag jowa ang dating. It was hella confusing and annoying. Third date, we made up for the petty “tampuhan.” Had a make up sex for a fight that didin’t feel legit lol. The sex went on until the morning before his flight.
- Funny how he confessed to lying about his age. I don’t remember exactly what he initially told me, but on the third day of our date, he admitted he was 39 years old. I didn’t mind. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I actually found it hot (the age ofc! not the lying).
- We became LDR situationship for a month I think. He was a super jelly guy and I grew tired of the drama. I deleted him from my contacts and stopped contact.
- He messaged some time ago and said he’ll be back in Manila this August and wanted to meet up. LOL! Locking in reservations way too early - as though I’d want to be put on reserve. I deleted the convo again. I don’t have any interest to meet him in August or ever.

L
- Filipino, working in IT and real estate (unverified).
- I posted a seeking for sugar daddy post on Reddit and he was the first one who messaged with a very well-written intro so I responded to him.
- He speaks so well. Nerdy. Muscular - super. He was 41 years old… he looks the age but his body was really toned. Had a decent sex, he finished; I didn’t. Weird lang when I was washing up he said, “Shit something came up at work.” Lol. Iba naramdaman ko… as if tatakbuhan ako when we haven’t discussed about the sugaring arrangement yet. He just used me for sex… it felt really weird and sad.
- We still continued texting intermittenly after that though. Nothing overly sexual, just simple, sometimes nerdy stuff. No topic of SD/SB came up again. But he kept asking to meet me again and again. I wanted, but was skeptical because I kept thinking what if it’s just another sex, without the sugar I needed and wanted at that time. Also, I was already committed to someone else (next guy teehee). After three months of endless planning to meet again, I told him I feel bad for always postponing and that I didn’t want to meet him anymore after all.
- He deleted his Telegram account. No contact.

M
- Filipino. CEO of a local logistics company.
- Similar meeting circumstances with L. He had the second nicest intro as a sugar daddy applicant lol so I also messaged him.
- We had a cute first meetup where he picked me up at the airport with his fancy car. We went straight to his house and things happened. He’s a single dad btw.
- We did all sorts of crazies and checked off a lot from our sex bucketlist. He was caring and made it a point to pick me up and drop me off everytime despite the distance of our place. All our dates ie sex was in his house or a hotel. We only went out for a proper date once. The other big plans he had remained as plans.
- He is an archetype of a classic sugar daddy: old, rich, in need of a company. He didn’t become my sugar daddy in the end as we immediately changed the relationship dynamic to a bf-gf one. I was embarrassed to ask for the allowance, because I thought it’s only supposed to happen in a sugaring arrangement; not a normal relationship. I became frustrated after several months as I thought I’ve been scammed and was just used lol. I needed the sugar (money), not the sugar from all the starbucks he got for me.
- No contact.

N
- Bulgarian. My first white guy lol. Works in IT.
- Met him on Tinder and talked for two days before I went to meet him at his hotel in Poblacion. It was a long pabebe from me cause I did not want to fuck just yet. I genuinely was not interested from the beginning. He was handsome ok and had beautiful green eyes, but I was not attracted to him. Three hours in our conversation, I already allowed him to kiss me and we had sex for 20 minutes! He got tired fast. 😭 We were doing doggy and the pace was slow… he said he’s starting to feel dizzy. Like??? He stopped midway and was panting bad when he plopped on the bed. We didn’t continue and I just said I’d leave. He saw me out.
- Not a single message after we’ve separated. No byes, thank yous, or whatnot. No contact.

O
- Chinese. Idk his work.
- Similar circumstances with L and M, but this guy’s overseas. I thought I can have him on the side while I’m with M. We were just texting, calling sometimes and he kept planning to take me to his country.
- I didn’t receive allowance from him even though that was in the talks earlier, but we didn’t agree on anything anyway, and I was shy to bring it up. He did fly me to his country after x months of talking and planning. I genuinely enjoyed the sex with him despite his size. I always finished and so did he lol. We enjoyed each other’s company and met again for a few times.
- Had a pregnancy scare that became a positive pregnancy. 🙃 The expensive emergency pill did not work and I turned to medical abortion. He supported my plan except the financial part. Fuck. He intitially offered help but I was too stressed and emotional from the pregnancy, and full of pride - as always - and so I turned him down. I can also sense it was a half-hearted offer. He became such a pussy and it broke my heart.
- No contact. I still see him posting about looking for a sugar baby or a gf. We had an inside joke that he should find someone like me whom he’d had a great connection with, but better version if possible.

P
- Filipino. Writer and works in sales.
- Met on Reddit. He had a post looking for a company and I messaged him, but I was too late. He was so honest to tell me that the search is over and he already has a girl in his place. I was bummed, but we started talking a day after that and we continued texting for three weeks before meeting. We planned to go to the beach. He picked me up from my place, and we went to his family home before heading to the beach the next day.
- I didn’t think we’d have sex on the first night. I thought we’d do it at the resort lol. He initiated to cuddle in bed naked and we had a long foreplay after that. I really liked how he touched my body. He had a big tool. Super big that it hurt so much. The sex was painful all throughout. Biggest dick from all the guys I’ve had sex with.
- I was so tired but I couldn’t sleep on his bed… it smelled bad. He also snored so loud. Loud snores are a non-issue to me. I sleep soundly despite, but this time, I wasn’t able to sleep at all. Couldn’t point it out but my gut tells me it must be something. The day we were supposed to go to the beach, I made up a story that I forgot a big family event was up and my family is looking for me and that I had to be there. Lol. So I said goodbye. Thank goodness.
- We texted after. But when I found out about my pregnancy, I ghosted. Then I eventually blocked him. No contact.
- I was already pregnant when I flirted and fucked with him. I didn’t know it at that time yet. I only thought I was delayed because my boobs were so sore - an indication that my period is coming up.. but no, it was apparently a real pregnancy syptom lol. I felt so guilty when I found out.

That was my hoe phase. Crazy chapter.

I’m over that phase in my life hahaha. Totoo na. I did try to meet new people, without any linking or romantic expectations attached, but I get exhausted so easily that I eventually stopped. I never ended up doing or going for it then. Besides, I genuinely enjoy my solo dates. But sometimes, just sometimes, I get the urge to go on friendly, wholesome, purely SFW dates.