How many of you have experience with a partner who has Autism, while going thru Peri? from everything I've read it makes it even worse for both of us.

I'm M48 she's F46 .. I've read through a number of posts here and though I'm comforted by the knowledge that I'm not alone, I'm seriously struggling with how this is affecting me .. she's been part of my life since we were teenagers and we've been together for 6 years. Currently she's not talking to me, going on 4 days, because I brought up my feelings ... She had a partial hysterectomy two years ago that put her in the express lane for this, so that "Menopause is over when the periods stop for a full year" isn't a metric I can use ... I'm devoted to this woman, and as much as she tells me to "Do your research" most of it doesn't speak for her .. we don't live together, but I'm still going to her place regularly to try and make things easier for her while struggling to feel like I'm noticed or appreciated at all ... Apologize for the cognitive mess this post is, talking about my feelings has never been easy for me

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u/doomtroll1978 — 17 hours ago
▲ 12 r/swans

How many metal heads, like me, found their earliest stuff and fell in love from there?

I've been a metal head since I was a kid in the 80's, especially extreme metal. fast forward to Hastings Books & Music, mid 90's, their used CD section.. I find SWANS - Cop/Young God on CD.. and I remembered seeing one of the dude's from NYC's Crisis wearing a Swans shirt and I love them, so I picked it up... first thought that went through my head upon the maiden listen... "Wow, I understand the other part of the influence on Godflesh, Neurosis & Dead World" ..

I sadly got into them at the very end of their first era, but have been fortunate enough to see them live during the next era ..and so it seems, their third era now ..

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u/doomtroll1978 — 3 days ago
▲ 247 r/xbiking

Why don't we have a proper biography or documentary about the Great Sheldon Brown?

Hard to know which bike group to ask this question in, but I know every last one of us here know who he is.. So why isn't there a more accessible story about this legend? I'd read/watch it, hell I'd fund a kickstarter if those with means and skills to get it done ...

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u/doomtroll1978 — 18 days ago

How would I go about learning how to build wheels on a budget?

I've never even owned a truing stand, or learned that part, so I'm a blank slate... My local bike Co-op hasn't offered classes in 2-3 years, otherwise I would have taken a class. .. it will take me time to even acquire tools because of my limited budget, but I'd like more guidance than "just take apart a wheel and figure it out" .. thanks

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u/doomtroll1978 — 2 months ago