Having a relationship with a law student
Reading some of the content here made me realize how much of a pain in the ass I was to my ex. I was always pointing out parts of the relationship that could be improved—his lack of communication and what I perceived as a lack of passion for the relationship—making it seem like the relationship revolved only around my needs. I lacked empathy.
I had to end the relationship because it felt like we were moving through different phases in life. As someone anxious, I needed assurance that our relationship was heading somewhere stable. During that time, I noticed that he wasn’t fully “in” the relationship. He had walls built from trauma. From that, I came to the irrational conclusion that his trauma would eventually lead to me getting hurt.
Even though he explained himself to me, I still felt like we were speaking different languages, and that ultimately led me to decide to end the relationship.
I should have taken more time to learn about and immerse myself in the kind of life he was living. It was rigorous for him. He might have been at one of his lowest points, and I left him anyway. The fact that he still chose to invest in the relationship despite how busy he was was already a sign of his willingness to try, and I failed to see that.
I’m sorry.
To those in relationships with law students: exercise as much patience and understanding as you can.